Definition of indignant: feeling or showing anger because of something unjust or unworthy : filled with or marked by indignation (Merriam-Webster Dictionary.
I remember how I felt when I “met” this word. I remember feeling seen, loved, and “at home” within myself, believing that I could not have found a more perfect way to describe how I felt day in and day out.
“This is how I have felt for so, so, SO long.”
In that moment, I felt a connection with my true self. It was the part of me that knew it was bullshit that I was treated the way I was…The part of me that saw through the hypocrisy of the adults in my life.
I was pissed. I was angry…But now: my frustration had a word. A word that came with similar themes and patterns.
Indignation!
It was later I would discover the dance of indignation, situations we “attract” when we chose NOT to be in coordination with toxic authority figures and the expectations that inundate us.
Every time I “followed the beat of my own drum,” I would start free-styling, leave the beaten path….and then, Indignation would find me.
Why do I trigger people? Why do “they” get so angry, jealous, controlling, and hateful toward me?
For awhile I tried to avoid the dance of indignation. Instead of being forthright, direct, and bold, I would withhold my point-of-view. I did this because I did not feel I was strong enough to withstand their reaction. And I would not just withhold, I would try to please them and gain their favor.
Can you relate?
Of course, my attempts to avoid the dance of indignation only amplified it! I continued to attract numerous situations in my relationships and social dynamics in which my challenge was to stand up for myself and set some boundaries!
For instance, in my late teens and early 20s, I attracted relationships that were abusive. Some, verbally where I was accused of cheating and called all sorts of terrible names. Others: emotionally abusive with threats of physical violence…And later, sexual violence when I was 22-years-old.
When these things happened, I told myself that these situations were my fault and that I was to blame for them happening.
Not long after that, I just stopped fighting.I avoided. I would walk on eggshells. I would disconnect from my needs and feelings. Instead, I tried to stay safe by seeking approval from doing things the “right way.”
As I healed from this and created new results in my love life, I would attract other situations of professional jealousy where other “healers” would attack me. (That still kind of blows my mind! lol)
All of these situations really sucked. They were heartbreaking. I could not believe the cruelty and misuse of power by others.
But each time, I allowed space for my inner Love Renegade—the part of me that is reliably courageous, wise, and bold–to step in and take the lead in the dance of indignation.
I consciously choose my own choreography!
I stood up to bullies.
I called people out for their behavior.
I ended toxic relationships (including relationships with family members!)
I dared to follow my own dreams!
I no longer allowed the opinions of others to stop me or define me!
I found my liberation!
What about you? What is your current dance of indignation?
As you sit with your own story, please remember that you have a choice.
You do not have to take orders from fear!
You are completely capable and deserving of love and people who love and respect you.
You can take over the dance and incite your own healing rebellion!
If you have read this far, I have more for you!!!
Here is a video that details one very *odd* dance of indignation that I experienced in 2013 where I was turned into the priest for being a witch!!! WTF?!?
In under 10 minutes you will hear my story and gain more insight into how you can break the laws of relationship ™ and create your own healing rebellion!
It was during the summer of 2009 when I wrote my first [and so far only] missed connection. I was living in my hometown, El Paso, TX, working a job I barely tolerated, and grappling with the predicament of being in love with two men at the same time.
To cope with these messy emotions and very complicated feelings I posted a missed connection on Craigslist. It was short, cryptic, and “punny.” I got responses from others–not the person for whom it was intended—wishing me well and relating to me their own experiences of pain, heartbreak, and lost love.
Fast forward 10 years—both men are currently in my life! One of them, my handsome husband, Daniel, I married in 2012. The other, remains a friend of both of ours! I look back on the relationship that inspired that missed connection post and I see it with eyes of love, gratitude, and even awe.
See, when it ended, my logical mind told me that I was a free spirit going through an existential crisis who wanted to join the Peace Corps and that my former partner was taking a completely different—let’s say safer and more level-headed approach—by buying a house and settling down. The practical thing to do, we both felt, was to go our separate ways.
Now, over a decade later, I see the breakup as a powerful catalyst.
I would not have been able to truly BE my highest potential if I had stayed in that relationship.
Yes, romantic love, sexual chemistry, friendship were all there with the first relationship. No question about it! But there were was a huge missing piece in our relationship that I could not even see at the time!
The missing piece pointed to the lack of connection I had with myself. The breakup, as painful as it was, *forced me to shed light on those forgotten parts of myself which eventually, through plenty of twists and turns and close calls, led to a domino effect of awesome-ness!
There is more to this story that I would love to share with you. For now I have decided to share a bit more of it in an interview I did for the Women Entrepreneurs RadioSecrets of Success series called “Breaking the Laws of [Relationship] for Success, the Love Renegade’s Way with Lauren Kay Wyatt.”
You see, in some form or another, every relationship we have is a reflection of ourselves. This is especially highlighted when it comes to our intimate relationships!
Like it or not, these important relationships DO impact our self-expression and the results and fulfillment we have in our professional lives—especially if that professional life includes being an entrepreneur!
With my “enlightened” perspective I see that if had stayed in that relationship, I would not have had the courage to fully embrace my psychic gifts and have the *nerve to start a business grounded in the “woo-woo arts.”
Furthermore, had I not have endured that gut-wrenching breakup, I would not have had the healing that allowed me to reconnect with my inner wisdom, unconditional love, and soul purpose.
This powerful reconnection, fueled by unapologetic self-love, allowed me to experience *radical changes* that would forever impact the way I approached my romantic relationships, friendships, family relationships, and even partnerships with clients and other leaders in my field.
These changes led to healing which ultimately led me to discover the Laws of Relationship™, the six universal patterns of illusion, that separate us from love and cause disruption, chaos, and frustration in our romantic lives, relationships, and professional endeavors.
To further illuminate the often overlooked phenomenon (a missed connection in of its own lol) of how your love life and relationships DO affect your professional life and the success of your business, I want to share an interview I did with Deb Bailey of Women Entrepreneurs Radio.
In this interview Deb and I talk about success and love in business with humor, candor, and through the looking glass of the Laws of Relationship (which, FYI, at the time of recording back in January 2019, I called the Laws of Love!)
Whether you are an entrepreneur, a team leader, and/or someone who prioritizes healing and love in all of its forms, this interview will support you in bridging the gap of a missed connection within yourself so that you can enjoy more of what you desire in your love life, your relationships, and professionally.
