There is a difference between doing something new with gusto and trying.  When we try, we are unknowingly activating the Illusion of Perfection, one of the Illusions of Relationship™. It’s a heavy energy!

Watch the Illusion of Perfection video here: https://youtu.be/kf6ZJvdqeG8

When we try, we act with expectation. We are expecting something to happen. Expecting someone else to do something.  This creates a  lot of heavy pressure, creating unnecessary obstacles and burdens. It’s draining!  It is a lot to carry.

You may think “I am doing everything right! I am trying so hard! Why is this not working?”

Acting from a place of trying energizes the Illusion of Perfection and is a wonderful recipe for frustration, anger, and fatigue.  These energies are not attractive when creating a new relationship—one that reflects you! Nor do they magnetize new, enjoyable circumstances in your current relationship!

See, creating a new relationship or a different result in our current relationships—both where we are free to be our true selves—takes love and conscious aligned effort.  It is consistently making new choices.  It’s committing to show up as the person who has their ideal relationship.

What is your ideal relationship?  If you are already in a great relationship, what would make it even better?

When you answer this question, I urge you to keep your answer focused on YOU and not on your partner.  Here’s why…

If you watch the the Illusion of Perfection video (which you can do here: https://youtu.be/kf6ZJvdqeG8) you will see that one of the traits of this Illusion is being judgmental and critical.  When we want others to be different from who they are, we first must acknowledge the parts of ourselves that are ready for an upgrade.

Does that make sense? 

Sending you blessings of divine understanding, trust, and of course: Love.