by lauren | May 26, 2021 | boundaries, broken heart, dating advice for empaths, dating advice for highly sensitive people, dealing with drama, deepening with partner, empaths in relationships, Empowerment from Relationship Trauma, Empowerment in relationships, fear of intimacy, Free spirit in relationship, Healing Negative Emotions, love relationship consciousness, Relationships, self-love in relationships, spiritual relationship advice for women
There is a difference between doing something new with gusto and trying. When we try, we are unknowingly activating the Illusion of Perfection, one of the Illusions of Relationship™. It’s a heavy energy!
Watch the Illusion of Perfection video here: https://youtu.be/kf6ZJvdqeG8
When we try, we act with expectation. We are expecting something to happen. Expecting someone else to do something. This creates a lot of heavy pressure, creating unnecessary obstacles and burdens. It’s draining! It is a lot to carry.
You may think “I am doing everything right! I am trying so hard! Why is this not working?”
Acting from a place of trying energizes the Illusion of Perfection and is a wonderful recipe for frustration, anger, and fatigue. These energies are not attractive when creating a new relationship—one that reflects you! Nor do they magnetize new, enjoyable circumstances in your current relationship!
See, creating a new relationship or a different result in our current relationships—both where we are free to be our true selves—takes love and conscious aligned effort. It is consistently making new choices. It’s committing to show up as the person who has their ideal relationship.
What is your ideal relationship? If you are already in a great relationship, what would make it even better?
When you answer this question, I urge you to keep your answer focused on YOU and not on your partner. Here’s why…
If you watch the the Illusion of Perfection video (which you can do here: https://youtu.be/kf6ZJvdqeG8) you will see that one of the traits of this Illusion is being judgmental and critical. When we want others to be different from who they are, we first must acknowledge the parts of ourselves that are ready for an upgrade.
Does that make sense?
Sending you blessings of divine understanding, trust, and of course: Love.
by lauren | May 12, 2021 | boundaries, creating intimacy, dating advice for empaths, deepening with partner, empaths in relationships, Empowerment in relationships, fear of intimacy, Free spirit in relationship, Healing Negative Emotions, intimacy, self-love in relationships, settling
Perfection really is a sneaky beast! It urges us to follow the crowd and while it may lead to some sort of validation, it is really shallow and superficial at best. Really, any praise obtained from trying to be perfect, is the equivalent of fast food. It feels good while it’s happening, but if you eat too much and for too long…well, it can have lasting effects—and not the good kind!!! 🙂
This leads us into the Illusion of Perfection, one of the Illusions of Relationship™ that separates you from Love by causing you to be deeply inauthentic. This Illusion is so subtle that it you will often think that you are being true to yourself by just refining (and well, perfecting) when in reality, you are playing out a cycle of fear.
How does this impact your relationships? Well, it can cause the people in your life—especially your partner(s) or prospective partners—to not even know you. No one, including you, ever gets to truly connect with your authentic identity. This can cause deep longing and frustration—which can play out in sooooo many [dysfunctional] ways in your relationships!
If you would like to transcend the need for perfection, you must heal the Illusion of Perfection within you. Here are two videos where in less than 15 minutes—you will you will receive a deeper understanding of the Illusion of Perfection, and you will have an opportunity to connect with your authentic (ahem LOVE RENEGADE) self.
It is my intention that these videos bring you healing clarity on transcending the need for perfection and in creating a life and relationships that reflect your Divine self!
by lauren | May 2, 2021 | boundaries, creating intimacy, dating advice for empaths, dating advice for highly sensitive people, dealing with drama, deepening with partner, empaths in love, empaths in relationships, Empowerment from Relationship Trauma, Empowerment in relationships, fear of intimacy, Free spirit in relationship, Healing Negative Emotions, love relationship consciousness, self-love in relationships, spiritual relationship advice for women
Watch the newest video on the Illusion of Perfection here:===>https://youtu.be/kf6ZJvdqeG8
You can read the transcription below, but it is highly recommended that you watch the video.
What we are going to talk about right now is the Illusion of Perfection. The Illusion of Perfection is the fourth Illusion of Relationship that separates you from Love and disconnects you from your heart by willing you to be absolutely flawless and perfect. This particular Illusion of Relationship causes you to not be yourself. It does this because it keeps you from getting to know your true self. You are constantly plugged in to other peoples’ expectations of you. Now, they might be perceived expectations–projected ones! They may not even be true. A lot of assumptions are made with the Illusion of Perfection. When we are trying for an ideal that is not authentic for us, it puts us out of our brilliance and it makes us inauthentic. This can cause us to attract a lot of situations where we feel like we cannot be ourselves and where we cannot even access ourselves and are genuinely afraid of our potential. Dear one, if this sounds like you, my advice for you is to connect with your heart and set the intention to tap into the creative power, to let your Love Renegade guide you in being yourself, and for you to be courageous enough to put your beautiful heart and enter the world in your own unique way.
by lauren | Apr 27, 2021 | Uncategorized
How many times have you spoken your truth, only to be on the receiving end of someone’s wrath? Maybe you have experienced it with family? Maybe during a break up or a fight?
Whatever it is, know this: The Illusion of Drama is at play! This is the Illusion of Relationship™ that affects us most in the areas of emotions, feelings, and change.
Let’s dive deeper into understanding the Illusion of Drama by shedding light on expectations, one of the biggest culprits in creating unnecessary drama! See, most people go into relationships with expectations. It is human nature to desire certain things!
One of these expectations, for instance, is that the man “should” pay for dinner. Yes, it is nice to be treated to dinner but expecting something puts a whole lot of unnecessary pressure on the date, which can lead to assumptions and drama!
Another way that expectation creeps its way into a committed relationship is when one partner feels that the other should be responsible for all of their emotional needs. This where the drama really kicks in!!
Imagine you are in an intense emotional state. You expect your partner to react to you in a certain way. Whether you are seeking comfort, affirmation, or validation—your partner does not give you what you want! Maybe your partner even sets boundaries with you about it. Maybe you perceive this as rejection and just become angrier and angrier!
Let’s look at the other side of this dramatic interaction…
A person you care about is experiencing intense emotions and a part of you is afraid. You tried to fix the situation and found out they were not looking for solutions! Now you feel unappreciated. At this point you might see the person as inconsolable. Whatever it is— the emotional energy is too intense for you! You are now in survival mode, and truly believe you need to run for cover. So you yell that you need to be left alone…or you just shut down.
Does any of that sound familiar? If so, what do you do? You could complain to your friends—-feeding into the drama! You could vilify your partner—-creating a whole other level of drama…Or you could break free of the Illusion of Drama.
If you have not yet watched the Illusion of Drama video or if you need a quick reminder, watch it here: https://youtu.be/EL1lsxJc4xw
If you are in the middle of high emotion and drama, I offer you empathy and a gentle reminder that you have a choice. You can free yourself from the drama in a way that supports your personal growth and relationships.
Here are a couple of healing resources:
Video-“How to Stop Feeling Angry, Resentful and Hurt”- https://youtu.be/938jZkACgUA
Invitation- Connect with me one-on-one in a free consult- https://laurenkaywyatt.com/apply-renegade-session/
I will be in touch soon with more information on how you can break free from the Illusion of Drama. We will also be starting our adventure into the Illusion of Perfection soon.
by lauren | Apr 12, 2021 | creating intimacy, dating advice for empaths, dating advice for highly sensitive people, dealing with drama, deepening with partner, drama, empath heart healing, empaths in love, empaths in relationships, Empowerment from Relationship Trauma, fear of intimacy, Free spirit in relationship, Healing Negative Emotions, relationship challenges, Relationships, self-love in relationships, spiritual relationship advice for women, Uncategorized
Hello, Drama, My Old Friend! When Drama arrives in your life, it could mean that you in the middle of the manifestation process and in the middle of creating real lasting change! OR it can mean that you are under the influence of the Illusion of Drama, one of the Illusions of Relationship™ that pushes love away from you with a misuse of the powerful energy of Drama!
Watch our latest video and receive the healing transmission here==> https://youtu.be/EL1lsxJc4xwhttps://youtu.be/EL1lsxJc4xw
Read the transcript below 👇 👇 👇
Today I want to connect with you about the Illusion of Drama. The Illusion of Drama is the third of our Illusions of Relationship™ System that disconnects you from your heart and separates you from Love with a lot of drama, with a lot of distraction.
When we are caught into the Illusion of Drama, it is usually when things are so chaotic and busy, and when there is a lot of conflict within and relationship dynamics and within ourselves. When that is happening it is really important for you to tune in and to really be aware of how you can be the most authentic.
Are you emoting and creating drama for drama’s sake? Are you talking about your problems so that you can get attention? Or are you on the verge of a big empowerment opportunity and healing breakthrough in your life and your life is simply aligning to create that.
Drama is a part of the transformation and healing process and it is really important during this time that you go into it with a loving open heart, with a commitment to being authentic, and to step into your transformation with clarity and with a knowing that it is all working out in your favor.
Are you caught in the Illusion of Drama? Want to find out for sure? Take the free Quiz and find out which Illusion of Relationship™ is influencing you here: https://laurenkaywyatt.com/quiz/
Want to go deep and receive empowered support? Contact lauren at love renegades dot com and request a free session.
Sending you blessings!
