by lauren | Jan 22, 2026 | dealing with drama, drama, human design, illusion of drama
January 22, 2026 — the first official day of the New Year in the Human Design system.
There it was, staring me in the face: The Tower, reversed.
Pulled in the quiet stillness of my morning practice. A sacred ritual I keep.
Each morning, I sit with Spirit.
I make my mushroom coffee, light a candle, pull cards, and tune in. I ask questions. I journal. I listen.
This sacred practice nourishes me.
It grounds me in my psychic work, fuels my creativity, and anchors me in truth—so I can show up with clarity and power.
So when I pulled the Tower (reversed) in response to the question:
“What does the Divine want me to know about 2026?”
…I paid attention.
Most people see the Tower as a bad omen: chaos, breakdown, disaster.
But that’s not what I’ve come to understand.
The Tower is not the end.
It’s an invitation.
- Chaos is where the Divine clears the way.
- Crisis is where illusions dissolve.
- Collapse is just reordering in disguise.
We all go through moments that feel like things are falling apart.
Maybe you’re there right now.
You might feel disoriented, disconnected, or like you’re standing in the rubble of something you thought would last.
You’re not off track.
You’re in transition.
You’re in the sacred threshold of transformation.
In my work, I call this the Illusion of Drama—a powerful spell we often fall under when life doesn’t go the way we planned. When things get intense, it’s easy to assume something’s gone wrong.
But what if it hasn’t?
What if the very thing that feels like a mess… is the miracle in motion?
What if the “breakdown” is really just your soul’s way of making space for the next evolution?
If this resonates, take a moment today to ask yourself:
- What feels like it’s breaking down in my life right now?
- What truth might be breaking through beneath the surface?
- What am I being invited to release, so I can realign?
Let this be your permission to trust the process—even when it’s not neat or polished.
Lauren
Your Black Belt Mystic, Psychic Advisor & Animal Communicator
by lauren | Mar 26, 2016 | Uncategorized
Betrayal is a bitch. It’s the poison that ruins relationships, the catalyst of a self-esteem plummet. Once we are betrayed…well shit, life just never looks the same again.
The rose color glasses have been stomped on. Paradise? Lost.
Some of us, the softies, cry. We keep our heads down and distract ourselves as we pray, beg, and even plead with God that we will never, ever be betrayed again.
Then, there are the badasses, those of us naturally dominate folks, who become hardened, jaded, and skeptical. As badasses, we will remove anyone who we perceive as a threat. For this group, any Judas/Brutus is identified immediately and self-protective actions are promptly taken.
Regardless of whichever camp (team softie, camp badass, or flip-flopper) that you are in, you vow to yourself…never again…never will I ever allow this happen!
You plot revenge. You cry. You fantasize about being vindicated as you lie in your rose-thorned-adorned bed.
This is heartbreak.
It’s impossible for betrayal not to result in some type of heartbreak. When we are heartbroken, our defenses are up. When our defenses are up, our fear is ignited.
Fear is the opposite of love.
If part of you craves being in a loving intimate relationship, a physical expression of love, fear is pretty inconvenient.
When our fear is ignited, we go into self-protection mode. Self-protection can look like myriad of ways. For some of us, self-protection looks like we are trying to outrun something. We distract ourselves with big projects at work. We numb out with partying. Some of us might create petty drama.
Those of us, fed up with those aspects of self-protection mode, claim that we are done with relationships and dating and that we want to focus on ourselves, first and foremost.
The choice to love yourself is always a wise choice, right?
Yes and no.
Yes in that self-love is a huge component in creating a healthy and fulfilling relationship. No, because highly conscious people like us can use this as an excuse to keep us from having what the relationship that we desire.
Having mixed intentions will never give us what we want, but it does a great job at keeping things as they are.
An intention is a word for whatever motivation (conscious, subconscious, maybe even unconscious) is behind the actions that we take. Let’s talk about intentions in the context of dating.
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Dating is simply a mechanism to craft a relationship.
What if we are afraid to date? What if the people we attract to go on dates with are total duds or psychos?
What if we are really busy and dating just doesn’t excite us or feel worth it anymore?
What if we are super traumatized by past experiences that our fear has helped us substantially to live fully functional lives and dating is a huge unknown?!?
This is where intention comes in.
Intention plays into what we desire, what we fear, and how we see the world. Intention is based on what we believe is true, what we feel we deserve, and what we think we can get.
What do I believe is universally true?
What do I feel I deserve?
What do I think I can get?
Everything we attract is a result of our intention. If our intentions are love-based, we are going to make love-based decisions. If they our intentions are fear-based, then we are going to make fear-based choices.
Fear is not the enemy here. We experience fear to guard our hearts and keep us safe from treachery and betrayal. Fear mucks things up when it muddies our intentions and causes us to make fear-based choices that result in us never experiencing what we desire.
You are the catalyst of change.
If you do not like your current circumstances or if you are ready to experience your deepest desires, change is in your hands.
So let’s acknowledge our fears. Let’s honor the circumstances that gave us this wisdom.
Then, let’s change our intention.
