Hello, Drama, My Old Friend! When Drama arrives in your life, it could mean that you in the middle of the manifestation process and in the middle of creating real lasting change! OR it can mean that you are under the influence of the Illusion of Drama, one of the Illusions of Relationship™ that pushes love away from you with a misuse of the powerful energy of Drama!
Today I want to connect with you about the Illusion of Drama. The Illusion of Drama is the third of our Illusions of Relationship™ System that disconnects you from your heart and separates you from Love with a lot of drama, with a lot of distraction.
When we are caught into the Illusion of Drama, it is usually when things are so chaotic and busy, and when there is a lot of conflict within and relationship dynamics and within ourselves. When that is happening it is really important for you to tune in and to really be aware of how you can be the most authentic.
Are you emoting and creating drama for drama’s sake? Are you talking about your problems so that you can get attention? Or are you on the verge of a big empowerment opportunity and healing breakthrough in your life and your life is simply aligning to create that.
Drama is a part of the transformation and healing process and it is really important during this time that you go into it with a loving open heart, with a commitment to being authentic, and to step into your transformation with clarity and with a knowing that it is all working out in your favor.
Are you caught in the Illusion of Drama? Want to find out for sure? Take the free Quiz and find out which Illusion of Relationship™ is influencing you here: https://laurenkaywyatt.com/quiz/
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On Monday morning, I woke up with a flash of insight.
What would it be like if we were willing to drop the words “I’m sorry” from our vocabulary?
Before anyone gets all heated and accuses me of being unconscious or uncompassionate (not that you would do that) I urge you to reflect upon how often you apologize.
If it is a lot, consider that you might be giving too much of your energy to someone else’s problems or circumstances…Is this a smokescreen for your true feelings? Does it distract you from getting your own life on track?
Instead of saying you are sorry, what else could you say instead?
And for anyone who is waiting for an apology from someone else…I will just say it:
It’s time to let that shit go.
I mean really…Of all of the other things you could be thinking about or doing, you are choosing to spend your time on someone who has hurt you.
This type of behavior only serves in creating resentment. Feeling resentful is a huge energy-suck. It is SO draining.
What if you put your time and energy into healing instead?
One way you can do this is to accept my invitation to join me for a FREE virtual event, Soul-Level Healing for Your Broken Heart.
What: Soul-Level Healing for Your Broken Heart. This is an opportunity for you to receive healing insights, mini readings, and live coaching from me.
When: Wednesday, May 18th at 2 PM Central Time.
Why: Having a broken heart is a very real part of being human. If our heart does not heal, it makes it very hard to enjoy our relationships and have passion.
Really, choosing to heal your heart is one of the most badass things you can do.
It is empowering.
When we are empowered, we attract Love.
How: Attend Soul-Level Healing for Your Broken Heart where you will receive loving insight from mini readings and live coaching from me. To attend:
Heartbreak is a form of suffering and everyone will suffer in some way or another. Here’s the truth…
If you are courageous enough to allow yourself to be in a relationship, then heartbreak is an inevitable experience.
Instead of trying to escape the pain, feel resentful, or blame someone else for your own unhappiness, why not heal your heart instead?
Really, choosing to heal is one of the most rebellious and courageous things that you can do.
In the video, I go shed light on heartbreak and its negative effects on you, your passion, and your relationships.
To take it a step further, please accept my invitation to attend Soul Level Healing for Your Broken Heart, an interactive and virtual event that I am hosting on Wednesday, May 18, 2016 at 2 PM Central time where:
You can receive a mini reading or coaching (either directly from me or by watching someone else)
Begin to heal your heart
Expand your heart and vision to what’s possible for you in your love life
Receive practical action steps for what’s next
To attend the event, you must RSVP by subscribing to the event. Here’s how:
Betrayal is a bitch. It’s the poison that ruins relationships, the catalyst of a self-esteem plummet. Once we are betrayed…well shit, life just never looks the same again.
The rose color glasses have been stomped on. Paradise? Lost.
Some of us, the softies, cry. We keep our heads down and distract ourselves as we pray, beg, and even plead with God that we will never, ever be betrayed again.
Then, there are the badasses, those of us naturally dominate folks, who become hardened, jaded, and skeptical. As badasses, we will remove anyone who we perceive as a threat. For this group, any Judas/Brutus is identified immediately and self-protective actions are promptly taken.
Regardless of whichever camp (team softie, camp badass, or flip-flopper) that you are in, you vow to yourself…never again…never will I ever allow this happen!
You plot revenge. You cry. You fantasize about being vindicated as you lie in your rose-thorned-adorned bed.
This is heartbreak.
It’s impossible for betrayal not to result in some type of heartbreak. When we are heartbroken, our defenses are up. When our defenses are up, our fear is ignited.
Fear is the opposite of love.
If part of you craves being in a loving intimate relationship, a physical expression of love, fear is pretty inconvenient.
When our fear is ignited, we go into self-protection mode. Self-protection can look like myriad of ways. For some of us, self-protection looks like we are trying to outrun something. We distract ourselves with big projects at work. We numb out with partying. Some of us might create petty drama.
Those of us, fed up with those aspects of self-protection mode, claim that we are done with relationships and dating and that we want to focus on ourselves, first and foremost.
The choice to love yourself is always a wise choice, right?
Yes and no.
Yes in that self-love is a huge component in creating a healthy and fulfilling relationship. No, because highly conscious people like us can use this as an excuse to keep us from having what the relationship that we desire.
Having mixed intentions will never give us what we want, but it does a great job at keeping things as they are.
An intention is a word for whatever motivation (conscious, subconscious, maybe even unconscious) is behind the actions that we take. Let’s talk about intentions in the context of dating.
Dating is simply a mechanism to craft a relationship.
What if we are afraid to date? What if the people we attract to go on dates with are total duds or psychos?
What if we are really busy and dating just doesn’t excite us or feel worth it anymore?
What if we are super traumatized by past experiences that our fear has helped us substantially to live fully functional lives and dating is a huge unknown?!?
This is where intention comes in.
Intention plays into what we desire, what we fear, and how we see the world. Intention is based on what we believe is true, what we feel we deserve, and what we think we can get.
What do I believe is universally true?
What do I feel I deserve?
What do I think I can get?
Everything we attract is a result of our intention. If our intentions are love-based, we are going to make love-based decisions. If they our intentions are fear-based, then we are going to make fear-based choices.
Fear is not the enemy here. We experience fear to guard our hearts and keep us safe from treachery and betrayal. Fear mucks things up when it muddies our intentions and causes us to make fear-based choices that result in us never experiencing what we desire.
You are the catalyst of change.
If you do not like your current circumstances or if you are ready to experience your deepest desires, change is in your hands.
So let’s acknowledge our fears. Let’s honor the circumstances that gave us this wisdom.