It was during the summer of 2009 when I wrote my first [and so far only] missed connection. I was living in my hometown, El Paso, TX, working a job I barely tolerated, and grappling with the predicament of being in love with two men at the same time.
To cope with these messy emotions and very complicated feelings I posted a missed connection on Craigslist. It was short, cryptic, and “punny.” I got responses from others–not the person for whom it was intended—wishing me well and relating to me their own experiences of pain, heartbreak, and lost love.
Fast forward 10 years—both men are currently in my life! One of them, my handsome husband, Daniel, I married in 2012. The other, remains a friend of both of ours! I look back on the relationship that inspired that missed connection post and I see it with eyes of love, gratitude, and even awe.
See, when it ended, my logical mind told me that I was a free spirit going through an existential crisis who wanted to join the Peace Corps and that my former partner was taking a completely different—let’s say safer and more level-headed approach—by buying a house and settling down. The practical thing to do, we both felt, was to go our separate ways.
Now, over a decade later, I see the breakup as a powerful catalyst.
I would not have been able to truly BE my highest potential if I had stayed in that relationship.
Yes, romantic love, sexual chemistry, friendship were all there with the first relationship. No question about it! But there were was a huge missing piece in our relationship that I could not even see at the time!
The missing piece pointed to the lack of connection I had with myself. The breakup, as painful as it was, *forced me to shed light on those forgotten parts of myself which eventually, through plenty of twists and turns and close calls, led to a domino effect of awesome-ness!
There is more to this story that I would love to share with you. For now I have decided to share a bit more of it in an interview I did for the Women Entrepreneurs RadioSecrets of Success series called “Breaking the Laws of [Relationship] for Success, the Love Renegade’s Way with Lauren Kay Wyatt.”
You see, in some form or another, every relationship we have is a reflection of ourselves. This is especially highlighted when it comes to our intimate relationships!
Like it or not, these important relationships DO impact our self-expression and the results and fulfillment we have in our professional lives—especially if that professional life includes being an entrepreneur!
With my “enlightened” perspective I see that if had stayed in that relationship, I would not have had the courage to fully embrace my psychic gifts and have the *nerve to start a business grounded in the “woo-woo arts.”
Furthermore, had I not have endured that gut-wrenching breakup, I would not have had the healing that allowed me to reconnect with my inner wisdom, unconditional love, and soul purpose.
This powerful reconnection, fueled by unapologetic self-love, allowed me to experience *radical changes* that would forever impact the way I approached my romantic relationships, friendships, family relationships, and even partnerships with clients and other leaders in my field.
These changes led to healing which ultimately led me to discover the Laws of Relationship™, the six universal patterns of illusion, that separate us from love and cause disruption, chaos, and frustration in our romantic lives, relationships, and professional endeavors.
To further illuminate the often overlooked phenomenon (a missed connection in of its own lol) of how your love life and relationships DO affect your professional life and the success of your business, I want to share an interview I did with Deb Bailey of Women Entrepreneurs Radio.
In this interview Deb and I talk about success and love in business with humor, candor, and through the looking glass of the Laws of Relationship (which, FYI, at the time of recording back in January 2019, I called the Laws of Love!)
Whether you are an entrepreneur, a team leader, and/or someone who prioritizes healing and love in all of its forms, this interview will support you in bridging the gap of a missed connection within yourself so that you can enjoy more of what you desire in your love life, your relationships, and professionally.
Each time I connect with a client I am amazed by the wisdom that comes through. I am always left feeling energized and completely in awe.
Each person I work with is so precious and each session is sacred. Being coached, coaching, and watching someone be coached can be a healing experience.
We are all reflections of each other.
Even though we are not all exactly the same (and how boring would it be if we were lol) and some of us may loudly mirror our differences back to each other, all of us endure the same universal patterns and are bound to the same universal laws.
In this Love Liberation Session you will meet Shannon! Shannon has beautiful “pixie-energy” and after healing herself from a chronic illness, toxic relationships, and stepping into a completely new career as a medical intuitive, Shannon is at a choice point.
Will she risk getting hurt and opening her heart to love and romance?
Will she be courageous and dare to pursue her dream relationship
Or will she continue with “business as usual?”
Shannon’s session will be especially insightful for you if any of the following apply:
You are feeling guided to take a leap of faith but there is a part of you hanging on (to the past or how things “should” be)
You feel obligated to keep certain people in your life
You have already done a lot of inner healing work
You are curious about how I do what I do
It is my intention that the content in Shannon’s session supports you in saying yes to amazing love and taking a stand for love!
In many spiritual and personal development circles, there is a lot of talk about compassion and love, but there is a culture of avoidance when it comes to confrontation.
As a Love Renegade I believe that confrontation is sacred. It is an opportunity to stand in your truth and confront the parts of yourself, your life, and your relationships that are in conflict with your inner compass of integrity.
To heal we must be willing to engage in confrontation. The confrontation does not have to be you verses someone else. In fact, it is most powerful when the confrontation is between you and you. This allows you to build a foundation of self-trust that allows you to make wise choices on your own behalf—which then allows you to receive and attract love in all of its forms.
To me, these are the most empowered aspects of self-love and self-compassion. Listen to my first beginnings of practicing self-compassion and self-love through confronting my own limiting beliefs in this interview on the “Compassionately You” podcast.
Maybe you are thinking, “Ummm, why would I want to watch someone else’s session?”
Here’s why…We are all reflections of each other! Every human will [directly or indirectly] engage the same universal patterns. And yes, though we are all a part of the same source, these patterns do manifest differently in all of us because we are all unique individuals!
This mindset allows us to cultivate more empathy and gain more self-awareness. This combination allows us to connect—which allows for more love and deeper more fulfilling relationships!
In this first session, you will meet Thérèsa. Thérèsa was worried initially that I would not take her as a client . Her reasons? Because she was a lesbian and intersex. When you watch this video, you will see that Love Renegades is LGBTQIA+ friendly! At Love Renegades, we serve LOVE. Love comes in all forms. This includes people who are straight and who identify with their birth gender, and those who do not and who are non-binary! We support both monogamy and polyamory! Love Renegades is a safe virtual space for you to be your true self and receive love for being you!
All of this aside, I completely understood why Thérèsa would feel that way. I do know what it is like to be an outsider. I know how painful it is to try to fit in and I know what it is like to be rejected. ( I was a psychic little kid after all who was really aware that I did not fit my family or society’s expectations of me!!) I know what self-protection looks like and I know what it is like to guard my heart from being hurt.
If you are reading this, I am sure that there are times when you have had your own version of this too!
Thérèsa reflects the part of you who separates yourself from love by outwardly appearing to be different and unique and living your life largely on your terms but who secretly plays it safe and tries to fit in because of [at least one] of the following reasons:
You reject others before they reject you
You have not harnessed the power of your “flaws”
You are afraid of who you truly are
You gaslight yourself so that you can fit in and please others
So yeah…watching someone receive coaching is NOT as boring as hearing about someone else’s dream (or their past life regression experience lol.)
Let me know what you think when you watch Thérèsa’s session! What comes forth for you as you hear her experience and sit with the guidance and coaching she has received? What would your life and your romantic life be like if you listened to your heart and tapped into your inner Love Renegade?
I know it has been a while since we have connected. Truthfully, I have been in deep reflection. Even though I love my contemplation, I genuinely missed connecting with you! I did not reach out because I did not really have anything to say, but now I have something to share with you…It’s about trust. More specifically, self-trust, that sometimes elusive treasure that some of us never find.
Before I go any further, I want to disclose something. Trust—-particularly self-trust—has notoriously been a big deal for me. I used to be someone who was petrified of making a mistake. I used to be someone who was reluctant to move forward without proof. I used to check in with other people about what decisions I “should” make. These choices went right along with who was “safe” to love and what I needed to do to keep myself from being hurt.
Why did I do this? Well, being a psychic little kid, I had a very *different* perception of what was going on. I would see things—-fairies, spirits, scary things, colors around people. I would know things—-things I was not supposed to know and did not know I was not supposed to know. I would feel people’s feelings in my body. I did not know what to make of my experiences, but one thing I knew for sure was that it was NOT what my family and friends were experiencing. I decided that I was wrong and I wanted to keep my perceptions a secret.I was successful at this for many, many years…Until I wasn’t.
I will get into all of that another time, but for now: doesn’t it make sense why I would not trust myself?After all, I had no external support or validation and I decided from a very young age that my experiences were wrong. This choice allowed me to constantly give my power away to other people—-my power away to my lovers, my friends, my family, and any authority figure.Looking back, it was what was normal, but now living in that reality would be a perfectly self-created hell.
Ever since I chose to trust myself, I began to listen to myself intently. I saw that much of what I perceived was not the norm.Instead of getting discouraged as I did as a small child and again as a person with low self-esteem, I now see that my unconventional way of seeing things—-not just seeing ghosts and auras—-is what really allows me to serve other people. Here is what I have found to be true about trust:
Trust has nothing to do with guarantees and trust comes with a different type of certainty.
Trust has nothing to do with whether or not things will go “according to plan.”
Trust is complete liberation and ownership of my life, my intentions, and my manifestations.
For me,trust is about accepting my own inner wisdom, stating my intention, and moving forward with an open heart.
Have you ever wondered what your life and what your relationships would be like if you trusted yourself completely? What would you do more or less of?