Or read the transcription below…which is fine but you may not fully receive all of the love that is available to you in this healing transmission if you only read about it 👇 👇 👇
Hi, I am Lauren Kay Wyatt. I am an Intuitive Coach, the founder of Love Renegades, and the Creator of the Illusions of Relationship™ system.
Today I want to connect with you about the Illusion of Sacrifice. The Illusion of Sacrifice is one of the Illusions of Relationship that causes you to disconnect from your own needs and to be completely tuned into the people around you. For example, you would intuit your partner’s needs, your friends needs, your children’s needs, but that you would be completely disconnected when it comes to your own needs.
While it is a beautiful thing to be so caring and loving and while it is a super power to know other people’s needs, the dysfunctional side of it is being codependent and to really expect other people to give you what you give them–when one of your super powers is giving.
So what will really support you in breaking free of the Illusion of Sacrifice is making a commitment to connect with your own heart and to treat yourself the way that you treat other people by tending to your own needs.
Now this may take some deep self-reflective work that might feel kind of scary. I encourage you to be courageous. At Love Renegades we say Courage is the Vehicle of Love. I encourage you to really go for it.
Go for it in getting to know yourself and in getting to love yourself. Explore those shadows so that you can break free and be free and so that other people will love you the way that you love them and so that you can even have a higher level of that ideal.
Are you an empath? In 2015 I made a video on my YouTube channel—back when I called my business Bee Loving Bee Wise, owned the title of Love Psychic, and for the most part, did not include my middle name when introducing myself. To my surprise I saw that this video has almost 4.5K views!! I had no idea the impact the video would make. Although I do not often use the word “empath” it is very much a part of my life and the lives of my clients. Being an empath in relationships or an empath in dating definitely has its own set of challenges. Over the years I have worked with clients on using their high sensitivity and empathy to their advantage while dating and within their relationships.
If you are an empath, highly intuitive sensitive person, please know that I am devoted to serving you in having incredible relationships and enjoying your life fully and completely.
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Are you an empath? An empath is someone who is beautifully sensitive and can really feel the emotions of someone else. This is a really beautiful and sacred gift. The thing is sometimes empaths will take on other peoples’ energies and emotions and the energy of the room. They will do it like it is their own.
When an empath is in a romantic or intimate relationship or when an empath is on the dating scene—it is usually a different experience for this type of person—because this person is very much feeling the other person’s emotions, the other person’s energy, and the other person’s stuff. If they are at a party with a lot of people, they are going to feel that as well.
So let’s say that you [as an empath are] feeling great and you go to an event and you are excited to meet people. Sure, you might be a bit nervous—totally normal—but when you initially agreed to go to the event or go on the date, you felt good about it! And then you went to the event or date, you felt kind of weird, a bit uncomfortable, and kind of slimed. Maybe you even felt sick or felt like crying. Maybe this experience did not make sense! Maybe you felt like it was you! Or, maybe you are an empath who really absorbed and felt the collective energy of the room or you were just so tuned in to the other person’s stuff!
Now, I am in NO WAY saying that you should not leave the house or that you are this person who has this horrible affliction and that there is nothing that can be done about it. No! I am not saying that at all.
The truth is you can still have amazing fulfilling relationships where you are receiving love and appreciation from the other person and you are giving love and appreciation to the other person. All of this is highly possible. What it takes is for you to know what you want, be aware of how you are feeling, and to realize, “hey, maybe all this heavy energy that I am feeling isn’t mine.”
So anyway, I am an empath too and this is something that I have had to deal with in my dating life, relationship life, married life, and in being a somewhat social person in general…During a home yoga practice, the most beautiful message came through to me and I had to stop my yoga practice because all I wanted to do was just get this message out so that I could share it with you. I call this the Empath’s Creed.
Even though I feel the pain of the world. Every insecurity. Every worry. Every bill unpaid. Every judgement. Every instance of a lack of trust.Each betrayal. Every expectation that was never and could never be met. I remember that I have a choice. I can choose to believe and buy into that humanity has fallen. I can choose to believe that I am insignificant and that I don’t matter. Or instead, I can choose to remember who I am and what I stand for. I am profoundly grateful. I AM GRATITUDE. Even at my darkest moment, I choose love. This does mean that I have to like everyone or allow myself to be treated badly. What it does mean is that each moment allows an opportunity. An opportunity for love. An opportunity for change. And an opportunity to choose.
So from my heart to your heart—may your day be filled with love and gratitude. When you are with your special someone, significant other, friends, [or] you are on a date with someone you have not met, you are at a networking event, or party at someone’s house—whatever it is: remember how you are feeling, how you are being, and that you have a choice. You matter.
Being an empath is beautiful. Being able to connect so deeply with another and be able to feel their emotions is a beautiful gift. The problem is when we are experiencing the less desirable aspects of being so sensitive such as feeling depleting or not realizing that the pain you are feeling is not even your own. In this video, you will gain insight into how you can replenish your energy.
The Law of Drama is the Law of Relationship™ that separates us from love with dramatic experiences, over-reactions, resentments, and mistaking our [very loud] feelings for our intuition.
To break the Law of Drama we must accept that when we take steps toward transforming our circumstances—either in attracting our ideal partner, healing our broken hearts, enhancing our current relationship, or in up-leveling other parts of our lives—we are making a conscious choice to instigate change our lives.
When we choose to change, Drama knocks on our door ready to support us with the transformation we desire.
Most of us, when we experience drama, get lost in negative loops of thought and emotion. This may cause us to abandon our plans for transformation and to sabotage our progress. We may tell ourselves that we are not on the right path. We may doubt everything that we used to feel so strongly about before. Those of us who choose to break the law of drama, transcend the drama by rising above it.
See how this plays out in this “Law of Drama Case Study” with Lauren Wenzell. Lauren is a courageous, sensitive soul who writes beautiful poetry (you can check out her work on Instagram at @laurenspeacefulpoetry) and who works with children with autism. This time last year Lauren came face-to-face with the Law of Drama when her father died and just a mere few days later her longterm boyfriend broke up with her!
Watch to find out how she found her power in one of the hardest (and certainly most dramatic) times of her life here=====> https://youtu.be/bGfGcN1SSIE
Whatever you have been through has made you who you are today.
For those of us who have “gotten our asses kicked” by the Universe and who dared to make it to other side—that situation, the one that broke our hearts and overwhelmed us and the one that left us feeling completely defeated more than once—-yes that situation has made you who you are today.
Take a moment right now to acknowledge how far you have come. What did you learn about yourself? What wisdom did you gain from that experience? How did that experience shape you to be who are today and to have what you have?
This conversation brings us to connect with another Law of Relationship™, one of the six universal patterns of illusion that separates us from love—love in our intimate relationships, love within our life circumstances, and most importantly: the love within your own heart that allows you to tap into your personal power highest potential (aka your inner Love Renegade.)
We call this particular Law of Relationship™ the Law of Satisfaction.
The role that the Law of Satisfaction plays is what causes you to settle. It does this to protect you from having to endure similar pain and agony again.
While the Law of Satisfaction may “work” to keep your life “peaceful” and maybe even impressive from the outside looking in—it can hinder you from moving into your next level of LOVE and growth.
It separates you from love by causing stagnation. We are stagnant we are stuck. We are not moving forward. This immediately puts us into conflict with Love, the most creative and growth-oriented energy there is.
To help illustrate the Law of Satisfaction and what you can do to break the Law of Satisfaction, I interviewed my client, friend, and colleague, Jennifer Murphy. Jennifer has an expansive and impressive life. She wears many hats and has “been through the ringer” in her relationships and life circumstances. Jennifer is a personal development expert and the creator of the No Limits Life Empowerment Institute.
In the summer of 2018 Jennifer hired me to assist her in breaking the laws of relationship™ and in moving into her next level of potential and Love.
Watch us talk about her experience and the ins and outs of the Law of Satisfaction and enlighten yourself to what is next for you====> https://youtu.be/N4jvAtfPBbY
Our feelings can get really hurt in our relationships and that sometimes it is really tough to move forward.
In this video I outline a perspective that my clients and I use to make sense of situations that are really tough emotionally and to be at peace when things do not go the way that we want them to go.
I highly recommend this perspective as it can really set you free and allow you to let more love into your relationships, life, and experience.
