Up until now, I have not really been one to celebrate Valentine’s Day. Really, I think I may have been a little judgmental and arrogant—which is kind of embarrassing to admit because I have loads of empathy and coach people in love and relationships. My reasoning was that it did not make sense to me that so many wonderful people were giving their power away to a “silly” holiday.
Now, I realize that my arrogance was my way of protecting my empath heart from feeling the deep gaping heart wound of the Collective.
As much as I tried to shield my heart from feeling this pain, it still persisted, constantly knocking on my door to be of assistance. It felt too overwhelming until one day I decided to just let myself feel it. Courage is the vehicle of Love, right?
Here is what I know is true…
We are collectively hurting. Each one of us yearns to love and be loved. Each one of us has the opportunity to heal.
Although what I am about to say may sound radical and outlandish, I genuinely believe that the more we choose love and healing, the more we contribute to the Collective’s healing.
This means that the pain you feel from that divorce or that break up with a friend or that business deal that fell through—no matter how big or small or present that pain is—by healing it, you acknowledge your own power and set yourself free.
This means that all of the annoying things you experience in your relationships, within your dating process, etc— all of those things are your soul’s way of calling your attention to healing and liberating the love within you.
By healing these things, you contribute to healing the collective wound. In other words, your healing may inspire someone you do not even know to heal. This creates a cosmic healing ripple that benefits humanity, our planet, and collective spiritual growth.
That is the motivation behind this Valentine’s Day-inspired Special. I call it a Love Liberation Session, a private 30 minute intuitive healing and coaching session where you will:
Receive clarity on liberating the love within and around you!
Pave the way for you to have amazing experiences in your relationships!
Get to the root of all of the emotional, spiritual, and psychic gunk that is clogging up the love and healing within you!
In honor of Valentine’s Day and in the name of Love and Healing, I am doing this for half of the price of my normal rate!! So exciting, right?! This means that instead of $297, it is $147.)
Thank you for reading. It is a deep honor to assist you in healing and to provide you with wisdom that supports you in letting love lead the way, in your relationships and life.
**A slightly modified transcription is given below. Please know that the healing transmission of this video does not come out as fully from the transcription.**
Today we are shedding light on the Illusion of Control, the first of the Illusions of Relationship™. Just like what its name feels and and sounds like, really creates contraction with control.
The control can be aggressive such actively and obviously trying to control other people. The control can look covert as well.
Either way, you want to control the future by wanting to know exactly what is going to happen and when it is going to happen. This Illusion of Relationship™ really takes you away from your heart and it throws you out of sync with Love by its relentless need to control. This is micromanaging of the creative process of the heart chakra.
For people who have the Illusion of Control as their main Illusion of Relationship™, the best advice is to you is to work on opening your heart and trusting Life. Being authentic and vulnerable is a huge part of this as well—doing this in a powerful honest way—where you can put it out there to the Universe (as an intention) and really attract people into your life who can be safely be your soft side with and who is safe to let your guard down with.
This allows Love to lead the way.
You are invited to reflect on this message with the following questions:
1.) In what ways do I seek and exhibit control in my relationships?
2.) How do I try to control myself and others?
3.) What might happen if I followed the advice given to me in the video?
I am Lauren Kay Wyatt. I am the creator of Love Renegades. I am so excited to connect with you today! Today, I want to shed light on the Illusions of Relationship™ so that you can have MORE LOVE—on your terms—so that you can—enjoy your relationships—your romantic relationships, the relationship you have with yourself, with the Divine, with the people in your life, and how you relate to the different challenges and themes that life can kind of throw at you.
So the six Illusions of Relationship™ are all patterns of illusion that separate you from Love. Each of the Illusions of Relationship™ has its own unique way of putting you under the influence of an illusion, a false truth that keeps you in tunnel vision and acting from a place of fear!
This is what an illusion does! When you are coming from a fear-based place, it is inevitable that you will create what you do not want—in your relationships, your life, and within yourself!
Now, instead of staying stuck in patterns of frustration, anger, bitterness, disappointment—all of that—there is a way out! There is an opportunity to connect with your heart, with your Soul, with your most Divine Self—this next level of YOU—also known as you inner Love Renegade—by breaking free of the Illusions of Relationship™!
When we look at things from the perspective of the Illusions of Relationship™, we see things from an elevated viewpoint where are empowered to say, think, and feel “Ohhh, that’s what’s happening! I see it now! I am going to make a new choice!” The six Illusions of Relationship™ are listed as follows:
Illusion of Control
Illusion of Sacrifice
Illusion of Drama
Illusion of Perfection
Illusion of Absorption
Illusion of Satisfaction
If you are curious which one of these Illusions that your soul would like for you to notice so that you can break free—take our free online quiz, which you can find right here on our website! I will be in touch with more videos and resources about each Illusion of Relationship™.
Being an empath is beautiful. Being able to connect so deeply with another and be able to feel their emotions is a beautiful gift. The problem is when we are experiencing the less desirable aspects of being so sensitive such as feeling depleting or not realizing that the pain you are feeling is not even your own. In this video, you will gain insight into how you can replenish your energy.
Your stomach churns. Your heart races. You have just spoken your truth only to find that someone else is let down. Perhaps they expected more of you than you were willing to give? Maybe you were (knowingly or unknowingly) dishonest. Or maybe, things changed.
Either way, it feels uncomfortable. A choice has been made and there is no going back to how things were. From that choice, and from the outcome of that choice, you are no longer the same person.
Yes, although it feels uncomfortable, there is also an impending joyful alignment!! Transformation, healing, and change can be messy.
We all have the potential to be divine masterpieces in our divine messes.
Often we are afraid to do things differently for fear that they will not work out. The fear of failure can stop us dead in our tracks. But what happens when we do take risks?
Sure, you might “fail,” but one thing is certain—clarity will prevail.
In March of this year, I declared I was permanently relocating to Maui. I took some serous spontaneous action, living in Hawaii for six months—four of those months without my husband, Daniel, and our sweet pets.
Well, near the end of my time there, things changed. While I loved Maui deeply and received so many blessings there, I had a deep knowing inside of me that it was time to go. Even though it was a tearful goodbye, the choice to leave made sense to me. And even though I intellectually knew that, I still needed to allowed myself ample time to understand and detangle my emotions around the entire experience.
It’s been a little over two months since returning to Texas. In this time I have enjoyed being in the same physical space as Daniel and in my comfy home as I go deep into contemplation. Here is just a little bit of what I found:
I liken much of my experience to a relationship. You know—the kind where you love the person deeply but the sacrifice required is often too great a price to pay?
I see my time in Hawaii as a beautiful love affair, where I had initially intended to stay, only to see that doing so was no longer aligned.
Leaving was my way of breaking free of the Illusion of Sacrifice, one of the six Illusions of Relationship™ that keeps us from connecting with Love and living our life on our soul’s terms.
Releasing our attachment to something working out a certain way (or our attachment to a certain someone) is an act of courage. At Love Renegades we say courage is the vehicle of love. It takes guts to chart your own course, to leave a situation, to say no, and to say yes.
So yes, even loving and courageous choices can come with drama! What do you think? Can you relate?
Here are three prompts for you to contemplate:
To what or to whom are you attached?
What risks do you feel afraid to take?
What are your reasons for resisting change?
Even if feels uncomfortable and even if you feel emotional and maybe even nauseated—what if you trusted that everything was working out for you? What if you genuinely allowed yourself the gift of empowered healing expansion as you navigated your own course, outside your comfort zone?
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Up until now, I have not really been one to celebrate Valentine’s Day. Really, I think I may have been a little judgmental and arrogant—which is kind of embarrassing to admit because I have loads of empathy and coach people in love and relationships. My reasoning was that it did not make sense to me that so many wonderful people were giving their power away to a “silly” holiday.
