by lauren | Jul 9, 2016 | Uncategorized
Have you ever felt like it was time to give up? When you hear the phrase, “give up” what comes into your heart? Do you feel angry? Does it make you want to fight harder? Does it enlist a feeling helplessness?
If you are…
- Single and have been in the process of finding your best relationship for awhile now
- Feeling heartbroken from a breakup
- Experiencing frustration at the dating process
- Yearning to heal your relationship karma
- Desire your best relationship with your partner
It could be time for a different type of reaction and new types of choices. Perhaps it time to experience surrender instead?
Whatever your response or situation, know this: Giving up does not mean giving in. Instead, reframe “giving up” as a conscious choice of surrender. When you choose to surrender, you are choosing freedom. When we are free in our relationships, we reclaim our personal power. This allows us to be our most recharged selves in our relationships.
In order to free yourself from negativity in your love life, you must be willing to heal. As this is not the easiest thing to do, I have created a video to assist you in the following:
- Acknowledging frustration, anger, pain, and heartbreak that you are feeling
- Using these emotions as a gateway to healing
- Transforming personal fear into love for optimal healing
Click here to watch the video.
Healing is an act of love. Love is the greatest healer. When we heal, we are empowered to have our best relationships.
How does this video make you feel?
And just to shed a little more light on how we can choose love and an empowered path of healing—even with the most recent current events…
Even in this time of tragedy and senseless violence, I am making a conscious choice to acknowledge the highest potential and love spark in humanity.
In times like this, it is not always easy, but know this: no matter how heartbroken and maybe even hopeless we may feel by current events, please know that you matter.
While it may feel small or like it is “not good enough,” each time you smile and allow yourself to fully experience the beauty of the moment…for every hug you give and receive, for every time you choose love over fear, you are acting as a part of the solution. You are powerful, loved, and lovable.
by lauren | Jun 23, 2016 | Uncategorized
Have you ever had a time in your life where everything just feels kind of off? I am talking about times when the following questions (or those with a similar vibe) swirl throughout your mind:
- Is this all that there is?
- Why do people do things like this?
- Why am I so fearful?
- Why is so hard for me to get out of bed every day?
- What is it that leaves me feeling so empty?
It is not unusual for a highly conscious person, such as yourself, to experience these types of questions.
Whether you are in a job that you hate, you feel trapped in a marriage that has run its course, you are a beacon for drama, or you feel powerless to break free of certain situations, what do you feel truly stops you from making a change?
Whatever your reason, I would say that it usually comes down to choosing fear over love.
And what is especially sinister about this is that often times your mind will fool you into believing that your fear-based choice is really a love-based choice.
This is an illusion.
An illusion is something that appears to be true, but when it comes down to it, it is not true at all. The following is an example of how an illusion in action:
Let’s say that you choose to settle or tolerate certain relationship dynamics or situations because you do not want to “disturb the peace.” You tell yourself that you are doing what you need to do because you do not want to upset others. Maybe you even feel like that the other people involved need you.
If this sounds at all familiar, I urge you to look deep within your heart and ask yourself: what am I really afraid of?
And regardless of your answer, I can promise you that the real reason has nothing to do with upsetting others or disturbing the peace. Even though you think you might be avoiding drama by keeping things as they are (settling for status quo) and not rocking the boat, you are hurting yourself each day you make this fear-based choice.
How much longer will go on settling?
How much longer will you tell yourself that you are fine with being in a relationship that has run its course?
How much longer will you tell yourself that you prefer being single when really and truly you would love to have a partner to co-create with and experience intimate and passionate love with?
If your heart is open and ready for transformation, then please: I urge you to give yourself permission to go for it. Why? Because you are worth having a life that you love and having an intimate relationship that reflects your soul’s true essence!
When you choose love, you magnetize love to you and everybody wins! (It’s universal law!)
The love renegade in me sees and honors the love renegade in you.
Namaste,
Lauren
by lauren | Jun 15, 2016 | Uncategorized
We are living in times of unspeakable violence. Many of us are afraid. There are so many uncertainties right now. People are lashing out at one another—with some even choosing to murder and to commit acts of terror—toward others who are different.
My heart goes out to Orlando. My heart goes out to the needless suffering happening in our world on all levels today—global, relational, social, and personal. Instead of feeling hopeless and staying in this place of despair, I am choosing to continue an empowered path of healing by being the change that I want to see in the world. Have you or will you make a similar choice?
Let me tell you a story…
When I first began a “spiritual journey,” I was instructed by several people not to focus on the negative—ever. I was told that if I did that, I might attract negativity to me. It was also gently suggested that I stop watching the news. Does this sound familiar?
For a brief moment in time, I abided. As an empath, I bought into the nonsense that I was too sensitive to be aware of what was happening in real life to other people. But then—thankfully not too much later—I snapped out of it! Instead of choosing to fear the world and to keep a low profile so that I would not get hurt or experience pain, I chose to be a part of the world and to let my light shine!
In this process, it was affirmed that that yes, bad things DO happen—who knew? [Le sigh.] And at the same time, I opened my eyes to the good things—extraordinary events even—that happened too. This phenomenon is possible as we live in a world of polarity. This is Universal Law.
On my empowered path of healing, I have found that growth happens in discomfort. The times we are living in are highly uncomfortable. I take this to mean that we are living in a time of great transformation and healing. And in all of this, we have a choice. We may not be able to prevent other people from committing acts of terror and violence and trying to change another person’s belief system is like throwing your energy into a bottomless pit. It is a futile process. Even though we may not be able to directly change the situation, we always have a choice to choose love over fear and to heal and to grow. What is your choice?
Will you choose to tune everything out? To escape? Will you choose to continue the cycle of violence by lashing out at yourself—with negative self-talk and self-sabotage? Will you choose to blame other people for your problems? OR will you make a new choice—a love-based choice instead?
Just for clarification…a love-based choice does not include being wimpy, letting people walk all over you, and holding onto relationships out of fear of what the other person may or may not do, or because you do not want to be judged for being “mean.” Boundaries and knowing what yours are a part of the empowered path of healing.
Would you like to know my motivation for choosing relationships and love to be the focus of my business? It was not only because I am good at what I do. It was not just because romantic love, conscious partnership, and all things love make my heart go pitter-patter. It was not only because I have experienced huge amounts of healing and transformation from creating my relationship with my husband, Daniel. All of this is true! Absolutely!
The main reason I chose love and relationships is because I believe that love is the greatest healer. If we, as humans—if you, as the individual—are courageous enough to heal, then WOW.
To heal fully and completely from the inside out, and to experience the reflection of this courageous act of love—this empowered path of healing— in your intimate relationships—THEN DOUBLE, Triple, Quadruple “FUCK YEAH” WOW! 🙂
by lauren | Jun 13, 2016 | Uncategorized
In most personal and spiritual development communities, we are told to stop complaining. This makes perfect sense as focusing on what we do not want is draining as it takes our energy away from what we would ultimately like. (Law of attraction, right?)
Yet on the other side of this, I feel like we do ourselves a disservice when we do not allow ourselves to complain. By complaining, I do not mean sucking all of the energy out of the room as you vent to anyone who will listen and giving thousands of excuses related to why you cannot have what you desire. That is SO exhausting! 🙂
What I do mean is if you are productive with your complaining, you can use it to your advantage. Let me explain.
If you are frustrated with your love life or relationship, you are experiencing negative relationship karma. In the video below, I outline how you can apply what we ordinarily think of as complaining to heal your negative relationship karma.
Take a peak in the video that I made just for you! 🙂
Does anything about what I shared in the video ignite you? Is there another video that you would like for me to make? Leave a comment and let me know. 🙂
by lauren | Jun 8, 2016 | Uncategorized
For a highly conscious person, a conversation can be revolutionary.
Good questions and insights open the door to healing, connect us with our soul, and point us in an aligned direction.
In that moment, we feel our world change. We feel like “we got this.”
Until we no longer feel this way anymore…
Unfortunately, not long after our big “breakthrough,” we realize that nothing in our life has actually changed.
In this moment, we can choose to be disillusioned, feel helpless, OR we can choose another path.
And of course, we always having the option of feeling helpless—even when we are choosing another path.
This is the empowered path of healing. This is courage.
Courage is highly important in the healing process. Let me tell you why, but first let’s talk about what I mean when I use the word “healing.”
First, healing is NOT only about feeling better. Yes, feeling better has a lot do with it, but truthfully: sometimes healing does not always feel too great in the process.
In fact, during or shortly after a healing session, we may experience emotions that we don’t really like at all. We may even feel quite uncomfortable.
Some of us may choose to make ourselves wrong for having these emotions. We may try to meditate them away, dismiss them, and banish these emotions out of our system. We might even lash out at the healer (aka the messenger) or other people. And we do this…not because the information is “bad” or disempowering, but because of the opposite.
In that moment, we are enlightened to our magnificence and we struggle with our own light.
These responses come from our ego or what I lovingly refer to as Junior. These methods of response, or rejecting the information, and experiencing these uncomfortable emotions are not good, bad, right, or wrong, but if you are not careful: they can sabotage you.
See, Junior is quite clever. Here is how Junior works:
- We do not allow ourselves to acknowledge our emotions or what we are experiencing
- We acknowledge the breakthrough and we are afraid to go deeper
- We actually do feel much better and we even take a bit of new action, and from that we think, “Ok I am good. That’s enough healing for now. Thank you.” 🙂
If we are not mindful of Junior, buying into these Junior strategies, or resistance mechanisms may lead to stagnation and zero change.
And if that is what we want, then great! Honestly, some of us—most of us actually—would rather feel better about circumstances than create new ones. Some of us even mistake “peace” for status quo. All of this fine! No judgement here! 🙂
But for those of you who choose an empowered path of healing, you are different. And you are in for quite a ride, because on this path, you get to be courageous! You get to disrupt outmoded ways of thinking. You get to confront illusions. You get to step out of your shadow and into the light.
It may not always feel too great, but on an empowered path of healing, you get to actually experience (not just feel) positive changes in your environment, you relationships, and your well-being.
