by Lauren Kay Wyatt | Oct 27, 2016 | Uncategorized
“I can’t do it. I am calling the wedding off.”
The two sentences that scared the absolute SHIT OUT OF ME were now out. In full view. On the table. Front and center.
Terror ran through my body. I braced myself, closed my eyes, and waited…What would happen next?
His response surprised me…
“That’s OK. We can wait. Whenever you are ready.”
The emotional build up I felt in my heart turned to tears. I couldn’t stop crying. I was shaking. Was I relieved? Was I in shock?
Five years later, I know now that what I felt was love.
Not the mere feeling of love or the addictive illusion of it. What I felt was the big type of love. The kind that heals. The kind that transforms. The type of love where you experience an envelope of complete acceptance, grace, and safety: the type of love that creates miracles.
And, a miracle, I did create. I spoke my truth. I chose courage.
Like many of my clients and maybe even you specifically, I had a pattern of not checking in with myself before I made decisions. Instead of asking my heart for advice and checking in with my own inner wisdom, I would often go along with what the other person wanted. I was afraid of making my own choices. I did not trust myself.
And you know what? I paid the consequences. Choosing to go along with what others wanted me to do only led to resentment, burnout, and a continual pattern of what happens when a person constantly refuses to trust themselves.
Can you relate?
A new level of empowerment beckoned me. On this level, I would know to listen to my inner authority and my hear t. I would choose to be authentic and trust myself.
This was not an easy choice. I knew that my choice was no doubt going to disappoint people. The thought of hurting another person made me feel nauseated, but now was an opportunity to choose my own way.
In doing so, I let other people down. My choice to call off the wedding really hurt my mom. And that killed me…but you know what? We all moved through it….Eventually. 🙂
And you know what else? Today, on October 27th, Daniel and I celebrate our forth wedding anniversary together.
The moral of the story is that right now, you might be at a cross roads. You might be afraid of hurting someone’s feelings. You might be stuck in fear. You might be going along with what others want because you are afraid of living your own truth. You might be suffering needlessly from not trusting yourself.
Whatever it is, I urge you to choose love. This is a courageous choice. It is not always easy.
How will you choose love today?
And just in case an answer does not immediately pop into your heart, I have enclosed a few more questions for you to support you in courageously choosing love.
- Have you ever made yourself do something that you did not want to do simply because you said you would?
- What were the results of that choice?
- Are you experiencing the results of those choices now?
- What change do you want to make that you are afraid to make?
Today, I invite you to treat yourself to a few minutes of quiet time to connect with your heart as you answer these questions.
And if you like, you can always reach out to me with your answers or any follow-up questions that you have to this article. I love hearing from you.
Blessings,
Lauren
by Lauren Kay Wyatt | Oct 17, 2016 | Uncategorized
Imagine this…
You have been dating someone for awhile. This person is super into you. It may even feel like they like you a little more than you like them. They start using words like “forever” and “always” with you.
It’s romantic and it’s sweet, but maybe it makes your stomach turn, just a little.
Or maybe—-on the other side of things—-you are so super, head over heels—- in lust or love with somebody. You feel like this person completely understands you. You feel like you two are meant to be. You want FOREVER with this person.
Does either one sound familiar to you?
Like most people, I too have fallen into the myth of forever and I gotta tell ya…Despite its romantic and whimsical nature, “forever” is a slippery slope.
I created a video just for you where I shed light on this love myth.
Watch my perspective on “the myth of forever” here.
It’s no secret that I love making videos for you!
Is there a topic that you want me to cover? Is there a question about love and relationships that you want me to answer? Go ahead and submit it here: https://laurenkaywyatt.com/ask-lauren/
Thanks for hanging out with me! xo
Love Renegade Blessings, Lauren
by Lauren Kay Wyatt | Oct 6, 2016 | Uncategorized
You stand there, seething. Clenching your fists and grinding your teeth. The adrenaline pulsates throughout your body. Your heart is pounding. You feel yourself about to boil over.
Then, your voice begins to shake. Are those tears? Oh no! What were you going to say? The feelings that you have in your body can somehow not make their way into words. Instead, you are standing there feeling humiliated and unsupported.
What you are experiencing right now is a cross roads. While you may not realize it at this moment, this challenge is an opportunity to heal and step into your power—-to be the badass love renegade that you are!!
Even if you feel like life is totally unfair right now—-even if you have been rejected—-Even as you endure your heartbreak, I want you to know that you have choice.
This is your “make or break” moment!!
This is your opportunity to practice unconVENtional love!
Let me back up a bit…
When it comes to “love” and our intimate relationships, a lot of buttons can be pushed. Whether it is with your partner or a date gone wrong—what once brought you so much excitement and joy—is now seen as a source of pain.
How do you deal?
If you are like most people, you go into either fight or flight mode. This is completely human, and it is a combination of the following:
- Lashing out
- Feeling victimized
- Shutting down
- Neglecting yourself
- Trying to make the situation better at all costs
- Seeking approval
- Struggling to effectively communicate your feelings
The good news is that the way you deal with fight or flight is they key to transforming your relationship karma and healing your love life.
This is unconventional love in action.
By practicing unconventional love, you reclaim your relationship with love. You become a master in transforming your love life from a battle field and into your own personal field of dreams.
What does it feel like you to you?
Does it sound easier said than done?
Does this perspective feel a little too airy-fairy for you?
Or maybe, this possibility terrifies you.
Even if you are afraid, will you still choose to step into your power and make your way to an empowered path of healing?
This is why I made a new video.
In this video, I will NOT tell you to “turn the other cheek.” Instead I will walk you through how you can begin to create your best relationship—-on your terms—-by practicing unconVENtional love.
Watch the video here.
After you watch the video, please feel free to comment or reach out to me with any feedback. I sincerely love empowering you to break the laws of love, heal your heart, and be the badass love renegade that you are.
Sending love, Lauren
by Lauren Kay Wyatt | Sep 22, 2016 | Uncategorized
Something has been nudging at my heart for a while now. I have reflected on it. Written about it. Meditated on it. Now, I am following my inner authority to “go public” with it.
While it may not be completely original, the perspective that I am guided to share with you is not popular.
It goes against much of what we, as spiritually-conscious and heart-centered people, are taught and what many of us accept as Truth.
My discovery has to do with uncovering another love myth. A love myth is something that appears to be true, but in reality: what it actually does is block love.
I made a video for you where I begin to shed light on the love myth of unconditional love.
As a Love Renegade, I am committed to evolving. I am committed to breaking free of what no longer serves me and shedding light on what I feel suppresses and represses many of us.
You are welcome to dismiss this video, embrace it, or reject it completely. And that is just fine. Free will makes our world a colorful, interesting, and diverse place.
by Lauren Kay Wyatt | Aug 13, 2016 | Uncategorized
A little over a week ago, Danny and I returned from Europe. It is an understatement to say that our time together was expansive and magical. During the trip, I could feel so much transforming and shifting within me. I knew that I would never be the same again, and now I might be in a little bit of a conundrum.
See, all of the new energies and insights I received have not made their way into word form yet. In fact, if I tried, everything that I had to share might not make the most sense! It might even feel forced.
For these reasons, I have chosen to do something that I am not very good at. I am choosing to wait.
Here’s the thing about waiting. Waiting does not mean doing nothing. It does not mean assuming that things will just fall into your lap. It does not mean meditating or praying your way into a new reality. (These behaviors can lead to frustration, disappointment, and heartache.)
Instead, waiting is a form of accepting and receiving whereby you get to simply be. When in a state of waiting, you get to take note of your environment and notice your feelings, emotions, and options on what you are experiencing and attracting.
To wait is pay attention. To wait is to listen.
When we are in this period of waiting, we are invited to heal. Through the healing process, we can acknowledge our desires. Through healing, we release all blocks us from bringing our desire into our reality.
For instance, do you desire a new relationship? Or a new dynamic within your current relationship? During this process, do you feel like nothing you are doing is working? Do you feel frustrated and stuck?
If you answered yes, then please consider that you might be in a period of waiting. The Universe and your higher self are asking you to look within and to observe your circumstances in a new way. You are being invited to heal so that you can have the new experience that you desire.
