by lauren | Jun 23, 2016 | Uncategorized
Have you ever had a time in your life where everything just feels kind of off? I am talking about times when the following questions (or those with a similar vibe) swirl throughout your mind:
- Is this all that there is?
- Why do people do things like this?
- Why am I so fearful?
- Why is so hard for me to get out of bed every day?
- What is it that leaves me feeling so empty?
It is not unusual for a highly conscious person, such as yourself, to experience these types of questions.
Whether you are in a job that you hate, you feel trapped in a marriage that has run its course, you are a beacon for drama, or you feel powerless to break free of certain situations, what do you feel truly stops you from making a change?
Whatever your reason, I would say that it usually comes down to choosing fear over love.
And what is especially sinister about this is that often times your mind will fool you into believing that your fear-based choice is really a love-based choice.
This is an illusion.
An illusion is something that appears to be true, but when it comes down to it, it is not true at all. The following is an example of how an illusion in action:
Let’s say that you choose to settle or tolerate certain relationship dynamics or situations because you do not want to “disturb the peace.” You tell yourself that you are doing what you need to do because you do not want to upset others. Maybe you even feel like that the other people involved need you.
If this sounds at all familiar, I urge you to look deep within your heart and ask yourself: what am I really afraid of?
And regardless of your answer, I can promise you that the real reason has nothing to do with upsetting others or disturbing the peace. Even though you think you might be avoiding drama by keeping things as they are (settling for status quo) and not rocking the boat, you are hurting yourself each day you make this fear-based choice.
How much longer will go on settling?
How much longer will you tell yourself that you are fine with being in a relationship that has run its course?
How much longer will you tell yourself that you prefer being single when really and truly you would love to have a partner to co-create with and experience intimate and passionate love with?
If your heart is open and ready for transformation, then please: I urge you to give yourself permission to go for it. Why? Because you are worth having a life that you love and having an intimate relationship that reflects your soul’s true essence!
When you choose love, you magnetize love to you and everybody wins! (It’s universal law!)
The love renegade in me sees and honors the love renegade in you.
Namaste,
Lauren
by lauren | Jun 15, 2016 | Uncategorized
We are living in times of unspeakable violence. Many of us are afraid. There are so many uncertainties right now. People are lashing out at one another—with some even choosing to murder and to commit acts of terror—toward others who are different.
My heart goes out to Orlando. My heart goes out to the needless suffering happening in our world on all levels today—global, relational, social, and personal. Instead of feeling hopeless and staying in this place of despair, I am choosing to continue an empowered path of healing by being the change that I want to see in the world. Have you or will you make a similar choice?
Let me tell you a story…
When I first began a “spiritual journey,” I was instructed by several people not to focus on the negative—ever. I was told that if I did that, I might attract negativity to me. It was also gently suggested that I stop watching the news. Does this sound familiar?
For a brief moment in time, I abided. As an empath, I bought into the nonsense that I was too sensitive to be aware of what was happening in real life to other people. But then—thankfully not too much later—I snapped out of it! Instead of choosing to fear the world and to keep a low profile so that I would not get hurt or experience pain, I chose to be a part of the world and to let my light shine!
In this process, it was affirmed that that yes, bad things DO happen—who knew? [Le sigh.] And at the same time, I opened my eyes to the good things—extraordinary events even—that happened too. This phenomenon is possible as we live in a world of polarity. This is Universal Law.
On my empowered path of healing, I have found that growth happens in discomfort. The times we are living in are highly uncomfortable. I take this to mean that we are living in a time of great transformation and healing. And in all of this, we have a choice. We may not be able to prevent other people from committing acts of terror and violence and trying to change another person’s belief system is like throwing your energy into a bottomless pit. It is a futile process. Even though we may not be able to directly change the situation, we always have a choice to choose love over fear and to heal and to grow. What is your choice?
Will you choose to tune everything out? To escape? Will you choose to continue the cycle of violence by lashing out at yourself—with negative self-talk and self-sabotage? Will you choose to blame other people for your problems? OR will you make a new choice—a love-based choice instead?
Just for clarification…a love-based choice does not include being wimpy, letting people walk all over you, and holding onto relationships out of fear of what the other person may or may not do, or because you do not want to be judged for being “mean.” Boundaries and knowing what yours are a part of the empowered path of healing.
Would you like to know my motivation for choosing relationships and love to be the focus of my business? It was not only because I am good at what I do. It was not just because romantic love, conscious partnership, and all things love make my heart go pitter-patter. It was not only because I have experienced huge amounts of healing and transformation from creating my relationship with my husband, Daniel. All of this is true! Absolutely!
The main reason I chose love and relationships is because I believe that love is the greatest healer. If we, as humans—if you, as the individual—are courageous enough to heal, then WOW.
To heal fully and completely from the inside out, and to experience the reflection of this courageous act of love—this empowered path of healing— in your intimate relationships—THEN DOUBLE, Triple, Quadruple “FUCK YEAH” WOW! 🙂
by lauren | Jun 13, 2016 | Uncategorized
In most personal and spiritual development communities, we are told to stop complaining. This makes perfect sense as focusing on what we do not want is draining as it takes our energy away from what we would ultimately like. (Law of attraction, right?)
Yet on the other side of this, I feel like we do ourselves a disservice when we do not allow ourselves to complain. By complaining, I do not mean sucking all of the energy out of the room as you vent to anyone who will listen and giving thousands of excuses related to why you cannot have what you desire. That is SO exhausting! 🙂
What I do mean is if you are productive with your complaining, you can use it to your advantage. Let me explain.
If you are frustrated with your love life or relationship, you are experiencing negative relationship karma. In the video below, I outline how you can apply what we ordinarily think of as complaining to heal your negative relationship karma.
Take a peak in the video that I made just for you! 🙂
Does anything about what I shared in the video ignite you? Is there another video that you would like for me to make? Leave a comment and let me know. 🙂
by lauren | Jun 8, 2016 | Uncategorized
For a highly conscious person, a conversation can be revolutionary.
Good questions and insights open the door to healing, connect us with our soul, and point us in an aligned direction.
In that moment, we feel our world change. We feel like “we got this.”
Until we no longer feel this way anymore…
Unfortunately, not long after our big “breakthrough,” we realize that nothing in our life has actually changed.
In this moment, we can choose to be disillusioned, feel helpless, OR we can choose another path.
And of course, we always having the option of feeling helpless—even when we are choosing another path.
This is the empowered path of healing. This is courage.
Courage is highly important in the healing process. Let me tell you why, but first let’s talk about what I mean when I use the word “healing.”
First, healing is NOT only about feeling better. Yes, feeling better has a lot do with it, but truthfully: sometimes healing does not always feel too great in the process.
In fact, during or shortly after a healing session, we may experience emotions that we don’t really like at all. We may even feel quite uncomfortable.
Some of us may choose to make ourselves wrong for having these emotions. We may try to meditate them away, dismiss them, and banish these emotions out of our system. We might even lash out at the healer (aka the messenger) or other people. And we do this…not because the information is “bad” or disempowering, but because of the opposite.
In that moment, we are enlightened to our magnificence and we struggle with our own light.
These responses come from our ego or what I lovingly refer to as Junior. These methods of response, or rejecting the information, and experiencing these uncomfortable emotions are not good, bad, right, or wrong, but if you are not careful: they can sabotage you.
See, Junior is quite clever. Here is how Junior works:
- We do not allow ourselves to acknowledge our emotions or what we are experiencing
- We acknowledge the breakthrough and we are afraid to go deeper
- We actually do feel much better and we even take a bit of new action, and from that we think, “Ok I am good. That’s enough healing for now. Thank you.” 🙂
If we are not mindful of Junior, buying into these Junior strategies, or resistance mechanisms may lead to stagnation and zero change.
And if that is what we want, then great! Honestly, some of us—most of us actually—would rather feel better about circumstances than create new ones. Some of us even mistake “peace” for status quo. All of this fine! No judgement here! 🙂
But for those of you who choose an empowered path of healing, you are different. And you are in for quite a ride, because on this path, you get to be courageous! You get to disrupt outmoded ways of thinking. You get to confront illusions. You get to step out of your shadow and into the light.
It may not always feel too great, but on an empowered path of healing, you get to actually experience (not just feel) positive changes in your environment, you relationships, and your well-being.
by lauren | May 30, 2016 | Uncategorized
Check out the guidance that came through for Brittany, a beautiful person inside and out, who is ready for a new experience in her love life and relationships.
Taken from my virtual event, Soul-Level Healing for Your Broken Heart, Brittany’s situation demonstrates the following:
- WHY being a helper/giver/healer in your relationships and the dating process is not all that is cracked up to be
- HOW you can start getting new results sooner rather than later.
Do you relate with Brittany’s story? Leave a comment and let me know. 🙂
by lauren | May 26, 2016 | Uncategorized
What if…
- …Doing the “right thing” is keeping you from having all that you want and more in your love life?
- …Always “being there” for others is blocking you from attracting your best relationship?
- …Giving is costing you your own well-being in your physical, spiritual, and emotional health and in your relationships?
Are you someone…
- who works hard at keeping the peace?
- strives for spiritual enlightenment?
- is often the first person to accommodate or bend to another person’s needs?
- gives of themselves?
Are you finally ready to experience love, appreciation—maybe even validation—for all of the love, hard work, and energy that you pour into your relationships and projects?
If you answered yes to any of the above or if you have a friend, partner, or loved one who feel meets the above criteria, then stay with me as dismantle another illusion together.
An illusion is something that appears to be true, but in reality, creates disempowerment and feeds into many untruths. In other words, an illusion will only lead you further away from what you desire.
Let’s look at this…
Have you heard the expressions and/or experienced the notion of the following?
- Nice guys/people finish last.
Now, I am going to assume that many of us feel that this is false. We want to believe that nice people live happily ever after, but maybe your experience has been the opposite of that? Maybe in your experience, you have been very nice and received very little in return?
- Give what you want to get.
This is where it gets tricky. See, this expression is one of my favorites and its application is/was/has been a great philosophy of mine…However, I feel that many of us heart-centered people do not apply this spiritual adage correctly.
In applying this expression to our lives, we may believe that…
- If in a relationships, that…
- if we want our partner to love and respect us, then we get to:
- fight or stand up for ourselves until they get it.
- give and give and give so that they see how great we are and reward for it
- If single/dating, that…
- if we want someone we are dating to commit to us or someone to notice us enough to ask us out, then we get to:
- give and give and give a lot so that the other person will perhaps give us what we want.
- show how great we are: how knowledgeable that we are, how beautiful we are, etc. so that the other person will commit to us or ask us out
- appeal to that person at the expense of ourselves so that they will love us and appreciate us and maybe even commit to us.
And regardless of which of the above applies to your personal situation, the end result is the same: disappointment and heartbreak.
So where’s the illusion?
We covered the groundwork with various situations where a heart-centered, loving, and nurturing person (maybe even you perhaps) could be sabotaging their relationship/love life through being a nice person.
Sometimes traditionally nice people can get very resentful when they do not experience gratitude, appreciation, or validation in return. Sometimes they may be burnt out, bitter, or even jaded about love because they feel like they have nothing more to give. They feel depleted.
This breaks my heart as the entire situation could be resolved if new choices, love-based choices were made instead of choices based on fear, habit, and illusion.
Are you ready to dive deeper into how you can have a new experience in your love life and relationship?
Ever wondered how you can experience love and appreciation from others, instead of simply being the one who is always giving?
