by lauren | Jun 13, 2016 | Uncategorized
In most personal and spiritual development communities, we are told to stop complaining. This makes perfect sense as focusing on what we do not want is draining as it takes our energy away from what we would ultimately like. (Law of attraction, right?)
Yet on the other side of this, I feel like we do ourselves a disservice when we do not allow ourselves to complain. By complaining, I do not mean sucking all of the energy out of the room as you vent to anyone who will listen and giving thousands of excuses related to why you cannot have what you desire. That is SO exhausting! 🙂
What I do mean is if you are productive with your complaining, you can use it to your advantage. Let me explain.
If you are frustrated with your love life or relationship, you are experiencing negative relationship karma. In the video below, I outline how you can apply what we ordinarily think of as complaining to heal your negative relationship karma.
Take a peak in the video that I made just for you! 🙂
Does anything about what I shared in the video ignite you? Is there another video that you would like for me to make? Leave a comment and let me know. 🙂
by lauren | Jun 8, 2016 | Uncategorized
For a highly conscious person, a conversation can be revolutionary.
Good questions and insights open the door to healing, connect us with our soul, and point us in an aligned direction.
In that moment, we feel our world change. We feel like “we got this.”
Until we no longer feel this way anymore…
Unfortunately, not long after our big “breakthrough,” we realize that nothing in our life has actually changed.
In this moment, we can choose to be disillusioned, feel helpless, OR we can choose another path.
And of course, we always having the option of feeling helpless—even when we are choosing another path.
This is the empowered path of healing. This is courage.
Courage is highly important in the healing process. Let me tell you why, but first let’s talk about what I mean when I use the word “healing.”
First, healing is NOT only about feeling better. Yes, feeling better has a lot do with it, but truthfully: sometimes healing does not always feel too great in the process.
In fact, during or shortly after a healing session, we may experience emotions that we don’t really like at all. We may even feel quite uncomfortable.
Some of us may choose to make ourselves wrong for having these emotions. We may try to meditate them away, dismiss them, and banish these emotions out of our system. We might even lash out at the healer (aka the messenger) or other people. And we do this…not because the information is “bad” or disempowering, but because of the opposite.
In that moment, we are enlightened to our magnificence and we struggle with our own light.
These responses come from our ego or what I lovingly refer to as Junior. These methods of response, or rejecting the information, and experiencing these uncomfortable emotions are not good, bad, right, or wrong, but if you are not careful: they can sabotage you.
See, Junior is quite clever. Here is how Junior works:
- We do not allow ourselves to acknowledge our emotions or what we are experiencing
- We acknowledge the breakthrough and we are afraid to go deeper
- We actually do feel much better and we even take a bit of new action, and from that we think, “Ok I am good. That’s enough healing for now. Thank you.” 🙂
If we are not mindful of Junior, buying into these Junior strategies, or resistance mechanisms may lead to stagnation and zero change.
And if that is what we want, then great! Honestly, some of us—most of us actually—would rather feel better about circumstances than create new ones. Some of us even mistake “peace” for status quo. All of this fine! No judgement here! 🙂
But for those of you who choose an empowered path of healing, you are different. And you are in for quite a ride, because on this path, you get to be courageous! You get to disrupt outmoded ways of thinking. You get to confront illusions. You get to step out of your shadow and into the light.
It may not always feel too great, but on an empowered path of healing, you get to actually experience (not just feel) positive changes in your environment, you relationships, and your well-being.
by lauren | May 30, 2016 | Uncategorized
Check out the guidance that came through for Brittany, a beautiful person inside and out, who is ready for a new experience in her love life and relationships.
Taken from my virtual event, Soul-Level Healing for Your Broken Heart, Brittany’s situation demonstrates the following:
- WHY being a helper/giver/healer in your relationships and the dating process is not all that is cracked up to be
- HOW you can start getting new results sooner rather than later.
Do you relate with Brittany’s story? Leave a comment and let me know. 🙂
by lauren | May 26, 2016 | Uncategorized
What if…
- …Doing the “right thing” is keeping you from having all that you want and more in your love life?
- …Always “being there” for others is blocking you from attracting your best relationship?
- …Giving is costing you your own well-being in your physical, spiritual, and emotional health and in your relationships?
Are you someone…
- who works hard at keeping the peace?
- strives for spiritual enlightenment?
- is often the first person to accommodate or bend to another person’s needs?
- gives of themselves?
Are you finally ready to experience love, appreciation—maybe even validation—for all of the love, hard work, and energy that you pour into your relationships and projects?
If you answered yes to any of the above or if you have a friend, partner, or loved one who feel meets the above criteria, then stay with me as dismantle another illusion together.
An illusion is something that appears to be true, but in reality, creates disempowerment and feeds into many untruths. In other words, an illusion will only lead you further away from what you desire.
Let’s look at this…
Have you heard the expressions and/or experienced the notion of the following?
- Nice guys/people finish last.
Now, I am going to assume that many of us feel that this is false. We want to believe that nice people live happily ever after, but maybe your experience has been the opposite of that? Maybe in your experience, you have been very nice and received very little in return?
- Give what you want to get.
This is where it gets tricky. See, this expression is one of my favorites and its application is/was/has been a great philosophy of mine…However, I feel that many of us heart-centered people do not apply this spiritual adage correctly.
In applying this expression to our lives, we may believe that…
- If in a relationships, that…
- if we want our partner to love and respect us, then we get to:
- fight or stand up for ourselves until they get it.
- give and give and give so that they see how great we are and reward for it
- If single/dating, that…
- if we want someone we are dating to commit to us or someone to notice us enough to ask us out, then we get to:
- give and give and give a lot so that the other person will perhaps give us what we want.
- show how great we are: how knowledgeable that we are, how beautiful we are, etc. so that the other person will commit to us or ask us out
- appeal to that person at the expense of ourselves so that they will love us and appreciate us and maybe even commit to us.
And regardless of which of the above applies to your personal situation, the end result is the same: disappointment and heartbreak.
So where’s the illusion?
We covered the groundwork with various situations where a heart-centered, loving, and nurturing person (maybe even you perhaps) could be sabotaging their relationship/love life through being a nice person.
Sometimes traditionally nice people can get very resentful when they do not experience gratitude, appreciation, or validation in return. Sometimes they may be burnt out, bitter, or even jaded about love because they feel like they have nothing more to give. They feel depleted.
This breaks my heart as the entire situation could be resolved if new choices, love-based choices were made instead of choices based on fear, habit, and illusion.
Are you ready to dive deeper into how you can have a new experience in your love life and relationship?
Ever wondered how you can experience love and appreciation from others, instead of simply being the one who is always giving?
by lauren | May 23, 2016 | Uncategorized
When you hear the words free spirit, what is the first image, thought, or feeling that comes into your heart?
Perhaps it is…
- …Someone who cannot be bound?
- …Someone who does life to the beat of her own drum?
- …Someone who defies convention and authority?
Do you consider yourself to be a free spirit?
Do you find yourself admiring the free spirits in your life?
Do you love spending time with free spirits as every moment with them is an adventure?
Or, on the flipside…
- …Does a person with free spirit qualities agitate you?
- ….Have you felt abandoned, betrayed, or hurt by a free spirit?
- …Did your interactions with a free spirit cause you to feel like you just could not measure up?
Are you a free spirit who has…
- …Clipped your own wings (or allowed for them to be clipped) to fit in?
- …Flown away from limitations instead of through the limitations?
- …Parted ways with people who felt were trying to control you?
- …Resigned yourself to being single?
- …Feels your current relationship isn’t exciting, expansive, or supportive enough?
Do you hold any of the following beliefs?
- No partner or potential partner is truly at your level of consciousness
- Relationships intrude on your personal freedom
- Your dream relationship does not exist in reality
If you feel triggered or deep resonance with anything that we just covered, I invite you to watch the following two segments taken from a virtual event I hosted last week called Soul-Level Healing for Your Broken Heart.
Instead of posting the entire training here, I felt it was best to share segments with you. In these particular segments, you will discover:
- How your free spirit is helping or harming you in your relationships and love life
- Insight into deeply held beliefs that are no longer serving you on having your best relationship
- Empathy and compassion into a free spirit’s thought process
- Actions that you can take to transform your relationship karma and heal your heart
This first video features free spirit, Patricia and her struggle in crafting a relationship that reflects her soul’s true essence.
This next video features free spirit, “Ali” (not her real name.) “Ali” feels she has outgrown her current relationship, and it breaks her heart.
Does this content resonate with you or trigger you? I welcome your feedback.
