by lauren | May 24, 2022 | boundaries
Let’s talk about boundaries, the often arbitrary lines that let us know what is ok and what is not ok, and the role of boundaries in abundance.
If you are anything like me, you did not grow up with healthy boundaries modeled to you. You may have had experiences where your boundaries were violated. Your first experiences in setting boundaries may have been because you experienced the pain of what it was not to have them.
You may not know this about me, but over the last decade, boundaries have been a personal life project of mine. Recently, I have seen that many well-meaning and hurt people weaponize their boundaries, whereby their boundaries are actually a form of defensiveness.
While I certainly understand this and have done this myself, my eyes are wide open to how many of us block ourselves from higher levels of love and abundance through being defensive, all in the guise of “setting boundaries” and standing up for ourselves.
If we have known each other over the years, then you know that I am a fan of “standing up for yourself.” As someone who has referred to herself as a “recovering doormat” and who has attracted many situations that felt unjust and simply wrong—I am not suggesting that you allow other people to treat you badly. Not at all!
Instead, I am asking you to check in with your own motivation and the energy behind your boundaries. Are you setting boundaries to create higher levels of love and connection or to “protect yourself” from people who hurt you? Ask yourself, “In standing up for myself, what am I standing for? Am I protecting an old identity or being self-righteous? Is there any part of my reaction that would be defensive?”
While you tune into those questions, I will share a story with you. Someone I once coached several months back got very upset with me and fired me. Why? Well, I “violated her boundaries” and she “needed space.” What did I do? I gave her honest, intuitive, LOVING feedback that her choices lacked integrity and were not aligned with what she wanted to experience and create.
You and I both know that I did not share this opinion with her to hurt her, but her Junior (my word for ego) saw the situation very differently and decided to set some really strong boundaries by ending our coaching relationship. I believe that if she would have let herself explore the strong feelings that came up and if she chose to see me as being on her side, rather than as a big monster who she needed to get away from, then she could have opened herself up to new levels of authenticity, love, trust, and abundance.
All of this brings me to the point of this message…There are times when boundaries are rooted in defensiveness. My request to you is to acknowledge areas in your life where you are being rigid and blocking yourself from new levels of love and abundance.
I realize it’s a big ask. This particular conversation about boundaries requires self-awareness, self-compassion, and a willingness to look within. I promise you that identifying these patterns will continue to liberate you and allow you to enter the oasis of abundance.
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by lauren | Mar 15, 2022 | Uncategorized
When you master rejection, you master life. Whether you like it or not, it supports you to accept that rejection is a part of life.
You are constantly choosing what to say yes to, what to say no to. When to wait, when to act, when to move forward.
If you do not “reject” an idea, a person, an offer, etc—you are stuck in indecision. Often, when we are indecisive, we are pushing away opportunities for expansion, success, and abundance.
The worst kind of rejection is when you REJECT YOURSELF—aka denying your own inner truth—by staying in the situation, relationship, or dynamic for way too long!!!
So when choosing to leave a situation or relationship, all you can do is make sure you leave with integrity.
Trust that no matter how much of an empath you are, know that you are NOT RESPONSIBLE for how the other person feels about your choice to leave.
Their feelings are theirs and you have no business micro-managing those feelings!
If there is a reaction from the other person about your choice, let them have their reaction, respond if you need to, and move on. Trust that your departure benefits the highest good.
On the flip side, if you feel hurt that someone says no to you or chooses to move their life in a different direction—LOVE YOURSELF through your pain—trusting that their choice is NOT ABOUT YOU.
For both the rejector and rejected, release the other with Love. See the situation as aligned to both your highest good and for your journey as a whole. <3
One of my gifts is helping my clients trust themselves and their decision-making process. Not only am I psychic and skilled at reading situations, relationships, and people, but I am certified and trained in modalities, such as Soul Realignment and Human Design, that support my clients in connecting with their intuition and innate decision-making process.
When you know how you are wired to make decisions and actually follow this sacred guidance, you tap into trust and authentic self-confidence. This allows you to create a life and relationships that you love---as well as learn how to respond to the "curveballs" that the Universe throws at you.
I would love to assist you with your journey! Check out my psychic boutique and get a reading! Also, I have specials going on in March so reach out by email if something grabs your attention.
by lauren | Dec 21, 2021 | Uncategorized
Reflection, contemplation, and release—all energies associated with the Solstice. To assist you in leaving behind what no longer supports you, I would like to offer you two things.
First, I want to invite you to have a Grand Tableau Reading with me. In this reading, we will look directly at the future and all circumstances, dynamics, etc that you can use to navigate the first part of 2022. This session is $277 and 75 minutes. I would love the opportunity to support you on your love and life path and in healing the Illusions of Relationship™. Make your payment here. and I will be in touch with you within two days to schedule your session.
Second, I want to shed light on the Illusion of Satisfaction, the Illusion of Relationship™ that separates you from Love by causing you to NOT acknowledge what you are actually tolerating.
Be warned. I am going to be very direct in my communication about the Illusion of Satisfaction. Please know that while my delivery may seem harsh, I am carrying a healing intention of reconnecting you with our power so that you can experience authentic satisfaction, joy, and love.
The Illusion of Satisfaction triggers your Junior—my word for ego—to “fool yourself” into believing that you like and enjoy what you are, in fact, tolerating. This can pertain to mistaken thinking aka the limiting beliefs that you carry. It points to the relationship dynamics you insist on keeping.
One example of this is so many of us say that we want a “good relationship.” We all want and desire love and yet we are not “good” to ourselves. Instead, we allow ourselves to be treated badly. We make ourselves really small to be “nice people” and we tolerate terrible behavior from others—without realizing that they are an externalized representation of how we are treating ourselves!
If you want to have a “good relationship” you must be “good” to yourself.
To heal the Illusion of Satisfaction within you…
1.) Start by looking closely at where you choose limitations. What “stories” do you tell yourself that encourage self-deception? Just so that you know—these are often the areas where you blame yourself and others and feel that you do not have a choice.
2.) Demand more from yourself by asking yourself, “Why do I continue to tolerate these things? Am I really so fearful of the unknown? Am I really that afraid of love? Why do I cling to what hurts me?”
3.) Experience all of the emotions—even anger, rage, and sadness. By allowing yourself to experience and acknowledge these emotions, you set yourself free, and you are more able to access pure satisfaction and joy.
Thank you for reading. If you want more information on the Illusion of Satisfaction, watch this video on my YouTube channel, where I am much softer in my approach. 😈
Thank you so much for letting me guide you with my own contemplations! Sending you so much love and blessings of gratitude. 💚
With Love and Wisdom,
Lauren
P.S. A few people have reached out and asked me if I am still accepting long-term coaching clients. The answer is a very authentically satisfied YES!! I love my new structure in my coaching programs!! ❤️ If you are interested, please consider starting with a Grand Tableau Reading, where you tap into gaining access to authentic confidence and satisfaction. Make your purchase here, and I will be in touch within a couple of days to schedule your session. Please know that due to the nature of this service, all sales are final and no refunds are offered.
by lauren | Nov 23, 2021 | Uncategorized
What if your biggest challenge was actually a gift? What if the gift of the challenge was the blessing on the other side?
Over the last 18 months, I have endured the intensity of the challenge and its corresponding gift. Choosing to embrace the challenge gave me the courage to release elements of my business, certain habits, and relationships, and to make space for more expansion. The results have been revolutionary, and it goes back to my choice to assist others with my most sacred gift, my psychic abilities.
It is no secret that I went “all-out” in having a highly successful coaching business. I have hired people to help me achieve this, and I’ll be the first to tell you that I have hired the “wrong” people. I put the word wrong in quotes because one of the gifts I have experienced came from the fallout I experienced from hiring the “wrong” person.
Even with the emotional drama and stressful intensity, my experience with this person reminded me of what it was to play the role of a “doormat” in a relationship as well as what happens when we override our own inner wisdom and intuition because we choose to be “seduced” by another.
The gifts I received from this challenging situation brought me closer to my Divine Essence while allowing me to relate, connect, and cultivate more empathy for others who are in abusive relationships and stuck in choice patterns that separate them from their inner wisdom and Divinity.
All of this is in service to you because now I have more creative, more authentic, and more diverse ways to assist you!
For instance, let me introduce a new service called a Grand Tableau Reading. This is a 75-minute psychic reading that will give you clear insight into the future as well as an accurate portrayal of what is happening now. In addition to having everything laid out for you, you will receive highly attuned advice from Spirit on how you can navigate the next few months and how you can respond to whatever situation or challenge presents itself “in the cards” or that you find yourself in. The current price of this offering is $277. Make your payment here.
After I receive notification of your payment, I will be in touch via email (from lauren at love renegades dot com) within no more than 48 hours, to schedule your session and with some simple intake questions. Please know that due to the nature of this service, all sales are final and no refunds are offered.
New services include psychic healings, other psychic sessions, and even energy healing and psychic support for your beloved pets, which you can find out more about on Instagram @Petpsychichealer. For more information, visit my “psychic boutique” here.
I am so excited about the newfound passion, enthusiasm in my business, and variety of services I can offer you. I fully believe that this is one of the many gifts that I have experienced from the challenge I told you about earlier in this post. These gifts came from choosing to see the purpose of all the chaos, all the drama, all of the intensity that I endured, and for that: I am incredibly grateful.
So, if you currently find yourself in a challenging situation or if you feel you may never be free of your current experience, I invite you to acknowledge that the blessing, the opportunity, the gift, etc is here. Not only is it here, but it is just around the corner waiting for you. <3
Sending you so much love and blessings of gratitude.
by lauren | Sep 8, 2021 | achievement, best relationships, boundaries, coaching questions, dealing with drama, empath heart healing, empaths in relationships, Empowerment from Relationship Trauma, Empowerment in relationships, fear of intimacy, Healing Negative Emotions, illusion of absorption, illusion of drama, illusion of relationship, illusion of satisfaction, love relationship consciousness, love renegades, mistaken thinking, relationship challenges, self-love in relationships, spiritual relationship advice for women, Uncategorized, validation seeking
As a Love and Relationship Psychic and Coach, I have the pleasure of connecting with people about their love lives and relationships. Recently, I felt inspired by a client’s session and received Divine Guidance (and her permission) to share this with you.
She is a beautiful, vibrant woman. Highly intelligent, successful, and quite kind. She is the type of person many of us would see and think, “Her life is perfect. She has it all figured out.”
The reality is that she has been in an emotionally abusive romantic relationship for three years too long.
She has told herself that she can fix it—that if she could just “be better” and “work harder,” then her partner would be happy—and that maybe the relationship would one day be what she has always wanted it to be.
In this relationship, she often experiences feeling devalued, dismissed, wrong, and anxious. She is not treated with love and respect. Many times, she has wanted to leave but has chosen to stay. She is losing confidence.
Does anything about her story feel familiar to you? As someone who loves to identify and dismantle illusions that separate us from Love, which I call the Illusions of Relationship™—I am excited to shed light on this common situation with a Love Renegade’s perspective, starting with mistaken thinking.
My client’s mistaken thinking was such that she believed that “being better” was going to going to lead to new enjoyable experiences in her relationship. Her motivation for “being better” was with the expectation that her [former] partner would like her more or treat her better. Although completely understandable, this approach is not only manipulative but also a form of self-deception.
The mistaken thinking at play here aligns fully with the Illusions of Relationship™, but not with Love. If continued, actions made from such thinking would result in more opportunities to deceive and be deceived, more reasons to stay stuck, and more dissatisfaction in relationships—causing a lot of pain and frustration!
Now back to my client—-in addition to being gorgeous and successful—she is a martial artist. In her coaching session, her Guides and I directed her to apply martial arts to this common relationship dynamic. From this exercise, she uncovered that her [former] partner’s “signature move” against her was a chokehold-—which made perfect sense for her!
See, the throat is the energy center of communication, authenticity, and self-expression. When we have blocks on our throat chakra, we are experiencing difficulty in speaking or living our truth. Nothing about this relationship really supported her in shining as her authentic self!
As we continued the session, I watched her throat chakra heal as she connected with her inner Love Renegade. As she saw the enlightened truth before her, she embraced a new perspective that will support her in breaking free of an emotional chokehold and the Illusions of Relationship™.
Of course, without being consciously aware of it, many of us unknowingly allow ourselves to be put into emotional chokeholds. For your own healing and illumination, I encourage you to spend some time with the following questions:
- What would I do or say if I felt more trusting and confident?
- Is there anywhere in my relationship or life where I am deceiving myself?
- What part of me wants to shine?
